5+ Signs To Tell When A Man Truly Wants To Pursue You

When you have been in the dating game for a while, it can get to a point that feels like you’re always swerving the same problems—just with different guys.

It’s like a bad rom-com of repeated clichĂ©s and bad date tropes that make you want to give up and stay single. Fear not because we have some advice to help.

He’s Comfortable Communicating With You Early On

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There is at least one thing that you can look out for during the first few dates that will help you decide if it’s something that you want to pursue.

Believe it or not, the planning of the date and communicating around your actual meeting is a great place to look for clues.

He’s Willing To Take The Lead In Planning Some Dates

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First things first, who plans the dates?

Your first few interactions that involve planning when you’re going to meet up will show you how invested he actually is in you.

He Always Takes Advantage Of Time Together

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If he’s brushing you off by saying things like, “Yeah that could be fun,” or, “I’ll see what’s up this weekend and get back to you,” instead of committing to plans, it’s a red flag.

Someone who actually wants to be with you will take advantage of every single opportunity to spend time together.

He Doesn’t Bail On You

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If you find yourself making excuses about why he hardly answers messages or bails on plans at the last minute, you’re probably getting pretty tired of the routine.

The fact is, the person you’re dating should be willing to go above and beyond to show you that they want to be around you.

He Takes An Interest In Your Life Outside Of Him

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We’re not saying every guy needs to be Noah from The Notebook writing endless love letters on the daily, that would be insane.

But it’s reasonable to expect that the person you’re seeing takes a bit of interest in your life and cares to show it.

He’s Ready To Deal With The More Challenging Parts Of Dating

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If a man is truly interested in making a relationship work, he’ll be willing to navigate the trickier parts of dating.

It looks different for everyone, but it could be distance, family drama, or trust issues. The right guy is going to take on those challenges headfirst.

He Responds To You Making The First Move

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Photo Credit: Tim Douglas / Pexels

In the past, it has been men who traditionally start a relationship by “making the first move.”

Nowadays, with things like female-tailored dating apps, changing ideas of relationships, and single social events, it’s basically a free-for-all.

He Makes An Effort To Carry On Casual Conversation

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Photo Credit: Pavel Danilyuk / Pexels

Since either a man or woman is equally likely to make the first move in today’s dating culture, it levels the playing field a little bit.

If someone has taken the time to reach out to you and carry on a conversation, it means they’re definitely interested in you.

Contradictory Signals Just Need To Be Worked Out

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Finding a genuine guy can be hard (duh).

Even the best men have a tendency to give off contradictory signals as they get to know someone and try to decide if they want to open up to them.

Don’t Forget, You’re In Charge Of Your Happiness!

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As long as he’s willing to communicate through those weird foggy parts of a new relationship, it’s a great sign he is genuinely interested in making things work.

You have the ability to cut him off if he’s not measuring up to your standards, and it’s okay to have standards. Remember, if he wanted to, he would! And you shouldn’t ever have to beg to be treated well.