Everyone has certain insecurities in life, and it can be hard to build your confidence, but you shouldn’t let those insecurities run your life.
Being confident in yourself and your decisions is important. You need to have self-respect and self-confidence if you want to be happy. Low self-esteem isn’t a personality trait that you should be tolerating. Recognizing that self-respect is something you need to work on is the first thing you need to do.
You’re Always Willing To Compromise Or Settle
It doesn’t matter what you want in a situation or how passionate you feel about something, if someone is going to be making a compromise, it’s probably going to be you. You’d rather settle and keep the peace than fight for what you want.
Every Relationship Becomes Your Identity
Whenever you’re in a new relationship, that relationship becomes your entire world. You throw yourself into it, taking on their personality or opinions, doing whatever you can to make them happy, regardless of the expense to yourself.
All Your Success Is Just Luck
This is a more subtle one, but there’s a big difference between being humble and not being confident in yourself. All your successes and achievements shouldn’t be chalked up to you being lucky or being at the right time in the right place.
You’re Literally Always The First One To Apologize
Someone bumps into you on the street and the first thing you do is apologize, even though it wasn’t your fault. If someone gets mad at you for something unfairly, you still apologize first. It doesn’t matter if it was your fault or not, you’ll take the blame.
Major Decisions Are Often Influenced By Other People
When making a decision like what major to go for in college or where you want to live, your decisions are usually influenced by your parents or your boyfriend or other people.
You’re Constantly Seeking Attention From Others
Regardless of whether it’s negative or positive attention, you just want people to pay attention to you. You don’t care how you need to act to get the attention, so long as you get it.
You Attract People Who Don’t Respect You
Does it feel like you’re in a lot of relationships where someone doesn’t respect you very much? That’s often because you don’t respect yourself enough, so you attract people who reciprocate that energy and don’t give you that respect either.
You’re The One Who Gives Support To Friends But You Don’t Receive It
Your friends know you as the person who is always there to help them when they have a problem or support them emotionally, but they don’t do the same for you—and you’re not expecting them to.
You Don’t Listen To Your Intuition
How many times have you heard someone tell you that you should trust your gut or that you’re the person who knows you best? We all hear it, but you have to actually respect yourself enough to listen to that too.
You Lack Boundaries
In any relationship, you’re always the person who sacrifices more than the other. You’d probably give someone the literal shirt off your back if they asked for it or gave you a reason they needed it more than you.
You Feel Drained By Your Commitments But Still Show Up
You’ve spread yourself so thin that you’re drained by all the commitments you made or things you’ve agreed to do for other people, and you’re sacrificing yourself in the process.
You Fixate On Past Mistakes
It doesn’t matter if everyone else has got off the minor mistake you made a year ago or that one argument you had with your friend three years ago, you’re still fixating on it.
You Care Too Much About What Other People Think
The opinion that matters most to you is anyone’s but yours. You care about other people’s opinions too much and allow their feelings or opinions to affect your own, often overshadowing yours completely.
You Struggle To Ask Others For Help
You want to be seen as the person who helps others, but you’re never willing to accept help for yourself or ask for help if you need it. Asking someone else for help feels like defeat or like you’re admitting weakness.
You Don’t Make Time For Yourself
You don’t take time to check in with yourself or take moments alone when you need them. You spend your time and energy doing things that other people are interested in, even if it doesn’t make you happy.
You Buy Things You Don’t Like
The opinions of others matter enough to you that you end up buying things that you don’t actually need or wearing clothing you don’t like because it’s what everyone else has or it’s what someone else has told you to buy.
You Don’t Make An Effort To Challenge Yourself
You live in an environment where you’ve convinced yourself that you can’t tackle new challenges or that you’re not ready to move forward, so you’re stuck in one place. Anything new doesn’t feel like it will be worth your effort because you’re convinced you’ll fail.
You Use Humor To Hide Your Real Emotions
Your friends or family may crack jokes at your expense, but the worst culprit for it is you. You’re the first in any situation to crack a self-deprecating joke because you don’t want people to know how you’re really feeling or you feel like your feelings aren’t valid.
You’re Still Friends With People You Don’t Actually Like
You have a group of friends or at least one friend that you’re not actually sure why you’re friends with them, other than the fact that the friendship already exists. You feel like if you break away from them, no one else is going to want to be friends with you, so you’d rather stay where you are, unhappy.
Constructive Criticism Always Feels Personal
If a professor or a boss gives you constructive criticism or feedback, you feel like it’s a personal attack. You don’t learn from it or accept it because you can’t get over the feeling that it’s personal.