Breakups are never easy, even if you're getting out a relationship that you know wasn't right for you, and everyone moves on at their own pace. There's no timeline or set of activities you have to do that will guarantee a speedy recovery, but there are signs that tell you that you're actually over a breakup.
Whether it took you 4 weeks or 4 months, there are a few things that indicate that you're happy being single, and you're not just telling people you're happy to get them to stop asking.
You're Actually Busy On The Weekends
You're not spending your Saturdays sitting around waiting to see if he's going to ask you to go out tonight, you're making your own plans! You've got places to go and people to see, and that doesn't include spending 6 hours waiting for someone to text you back.
You Like Spending Time Alone
A great part of being single is that you don't feel obligated to leave the house if you don't want to, and you're more than happy to just stay home on Friday night watching Netflix and eating leftover pizza.
You Can Go See A Movie By Yourself
And you're happy taking yourself out to dinner on a Friday night too. Being able to do what you want without feeling like you have to have a partner with you is a major sign that you're comfortable with being single.
You're Not Rushing To Jump Into Anything New
Since you've come to terms with being single, you don't feel that sense of urgency to start a new relationship with someone, and you can see the positives in just being on your own for a little while.
And You're More Skeptical Of The "Perfect" Guy
You're not actively looking for a relationship, and even if the seemingly perfect man comes into your life, you're more likely to question it. You're not going to fall for the first line he gives you because you're happy with where you're at now and they'd have to be pretty great to disrupt that.
You're Genuinely Happy For Your Friends Who Are In Relationships
It can be hard to hear about your friends' happy relationships when you're fresh out of a breakup, but if hearing that your childhood best friend got engaged doesn't make you break down in tears, you can be happy knowing your time will come eventually.
You Ran Into Your Ex And Didn't Have A Break Down
Seeing an ex soon after a breakup is always traumatic, but as time goes on and you come to terms with being apart from them, it gets easier. If you can run into them at that bakery you both love near his apartment without wanting to immediately run out the door, you're on the right track.
You Have No Problem Being The Third Or Fifth Wheel
Part of being happy for your friends who are in relationships while also being happy for yourself is being okay with being the third or the fifth or seventh wheel for dinner with your friends on a Saturday night.
You Don't Care If You Have A Bad Date
You're happy being single, so even if you end up going on a few bad dates, it doesn't send you into a complete spiral because you know that you're fine on your own for now. Your person will come along eventually, but you're good to just chill.
You Can Kill Your Own Spiders
Coming to terms with the fact that you have to be able to solve your own problems and not rely on someone else to do them for you is a major step in your newfound singledom, whether that's killing your own spiders or fixing your own leaky tap.
You Don't Have The Urge To Drunkenly Text Any Exes
Or even if you do still have that urge, you don't act on it, which is something to be proud of. If drunk you is able to not send an embarrassing text that you'll regret in the morning, you're in a good place.
You've Picked Up A New Hobby
After a breakup, it can be easy to focus on all the things that you don't get to do anymore like hobbies or things you enjoyed doing with your ex. But if you're at the stage now where you're thinking about trying something new, that's how you know you're in a good place.
You're Comfortable Traveling Alone
More than just being able to go out to eat a meal by yourself, traveling alone is a major step that shows you're comfortable with yourself and you're able to spend extended periods of time alone without being overcome by the existential dread that you're going to end up alone.
Seeing Couples In Public Doesn't Fill You With Bitterness
You might still be annoyed by those couples in public who insist on holding hands walking down the aisle in the grocery store, but it's not because you're bitter that you're alone. It's because you can't get around them to reach the spaghetti.
You Don't Stress About Having A Wedding Date
If you're at the age where your friends are starting to get married, the thought of having to find a wedding date could be stressful. On the other hand, if you look at a wedding as the opportunity to meet single men in suits, you know you're ready to mingle.
You Deleted Those Dating Apps You Half-Heartedly Downloaded After Your Breakup
Chances are, after you broke up with your most recent he-who-shall-not-be-named, you downloaded Tinder, maybe at the encouragement of your friends, but you now realize it was probably too soon so you delete them again and decide to focus on yourself.
You're Not Willing To Settle
You might find yourself being a little pickier than you were previously, because you now realize that you're not in a rush to start anything new. You're happy being single, and you're not going to settle for someone that's less than what you want.
You're Focused On Work
It's easy to throw yourself into work after a breakup to distract yourself, and now that you're (pretty much) over whatever emotional trauma your ex caused you, you're ready to focus on your career and breaking that glass ceiling.
You Have A Close Group Of Friends
Often times when you begin dating someone new, your friends become their friends or vice versa and lines can blur together. After you break up it can feel like you've lost friends, but if you've managed to strengthen the friendships around you and build a group of people that support you, you know you'll be fine without a partner.
You Tell People You're Happy Being Single And You Know You're Not Lying
You know yourself better than anyone else, so you're the only one that can know when you're truly over someone or when you're happy just being single. Even if your friends are convinced that you need to be in a relationship, you're the one that knows you're comfortable just being with yourself for a little while.