While many men like to talk about how they want a woman who is confident, who is self-assured, who knows what she wants in life, is that always true?
You may be exactly who you want to be right now and feel like you’re pretty great, yet you’re still not getting any attention. You’re putting yourself out there and getting nothing back, so what’s happening? It could be that the boy you’re interested in is a little intimidated by you.
You Like To Be In Control
Maybe you identify as a type-A personality, or you consider yourself a planner, or you’re a Virgo.
Regardless of what you want to call it, you like to be in charge. And not every man is okay with that!
He Gets Offended Easily
Chances are if he’s getting offended at every little comment you make (even if they’re well-intentioned), it’s because he’s insecure. And that’s a him problem!
It’s not your fault he’s intimidated by you when you’re just being yourself.
They Look, But Never Approach First
If you find that when you’re at a bar with your friends or at a party, men seem to notice you and pay attention to you but never make the move to talk to you, it could be the vibe you’re giving off.
You might seem too unattainable or untouchable, which intimidates them enough to stop them from talking to you.
He’s Always Trying To Tear You Down
“Negging” is the way that someone manipulates another person by intentionally giving them backhanded compliments or making negative remarks in an effort to pull that person down to their level.
He can’t handle someone succeeding if that someone isn’t him, so rather than supporting you, he wants to bring you down.
You Know You Have Your Act Together, But He’s Still Not Interested
You’re confident that the reason you’re still single is not that you’re a hot mess—because you’re not.
You have a great job, lots of wonderful friends, plus you went to therapy so you’ve stopped projecting your insecurities onto every new relationship! What have you got to show for it? Certainly not a relationship.
He’s Really Awkward When He Talks To You
This is especially noticeable if you’re trying to go after a guy who you have mutual friends with, so you’ve seen how he acts around others. He’s funny, he’s witty, he’s chill, why wouldn’t you be into him?
But then suddenly he’s talking to you and he’s awkward as hell. He’s stammering and he can’t make eye contact. Something must have him flustered.
Men Love To Give You The “Why Are You Still Single When You’re So Great” Line
There’s nothing more frustrating than hearing “you’re great, why are you still single?” from a guy you’re interested in—and then he does nothing about it.
Especially if you hear him asking about you or you know that he told your best friend’s boyfriend he was interested but then never acted on it.
The Dreaded “I’m Not Looking For Anything Serious Right Now” Breakup Line
If he’s telling you that he likes you, he thinks you’re great, blah blah blah but he’s “not ready” for a serious relationship (even though you never even hinted that you wanted him to meet your mom!), he’s probably feeling like you’re out of his league.
Even if you were also looking for something casual, he could feel intimidated because you have your sh*t together and he doesn’t.
Your Friends Have Told You That You Can Be Intimidating
You might not want to hear it but it doesn’t mean that it’s untrue.
Maybe they’re telling you this because they’ve heard it from men around them, or maybe you just give off an intimidating vibe to them too.
He Brags About Himself A Lot
While some men will shy away from a woman who intimidates them, others take the opposite approach and start telling tall tales about themselves or bragging.
Some of the crazy stories he tells you might be true, others might be slightly exaggerated. He’s trying to make himself seem like he’s on your level.
He Drops A Lot Of Hints
It feels like he’s been dropping hints left and right for weeks, yet he still hasn’t done anything about it.
He’s trying to drop hints that you’re his type or that he’s interested, but he doesn’t know if you feel the same way.
He Never Makes Eye Contact
One thing that women and men can agree on is that confidence is attractive. If someone comes up to you and is open about their interest, why wouldn’t you give them a chance?
When he comes up to you though, he can’t make eye contact. He fidgets, he looks around, but rarely if ever does he look right at you.
You’re Not Really One To Ask For Help
A lot of men feel like they need to swoop in to help a woman in distress, so if you’re a woman who can solve her own problems, that could be intimidating for him.
He could interpret it as you not needing him, when really it just means you’re a capable woman with great problem-solving skills.
You Expect Him To Give You The Best Version Of Himself
You like to push yourself to be the best that you can, so you also want that from your partner.
If he’s not ready to give you that version of himself, there are going to be some problems.
You’re Not Into Playing Games
You know what you want, and you’re willing to say it loud and clear for all to hear.
If he’s immature, he can get intimidated by the fact that you know what you want. You have expectations, and if he doesn’t feel like he can live up to them, he’ll be taking himself out of the running.
He Calls You “Opinionated”
Calling you “opinionated” is usually just his way of saying that he thinks you’re a little overbearing or that you have a strong personality.
You’re allowed to have your own opinions and voice them whenever you want.