Women Reveal Qualities They Find Least Attractive In Men

Recently, a Reddit user who goes by the handle u/Londoner421 asked the internet, “Women, what’s the least attractive quality in a man that they usually think is attractive?” Well, the women of Reddit were quick to respond with stories about the men in their lives who had let them down in the past.

Keep reading to find out what they had to say. Some of these are absolutely ridiculous. What kind of guy would think putting other people down was attractive?

A Real Tough Guy

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“Being so “tough & dominant” that they don’t know they’re being such a jerk.”

“For context, there’s this guy I know who basically asserts dominance by acting tough and violent, and degrading others by making unnecessary remarks just so he’d be seen as ‘cool’ and such. By doing so, he thought everyone feared him (& his presence) when in fact everyone’s tired of it.” —u/james_dean3301

Knower Of All

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Leilani Angel / Unsplash

“‘Knowing’ everything.”

“Sure, intelligence is nice, but it’s super transparent when you start making stuff up just so you don’t have to admit there’s something you don’t know. Especially if I do know it.” —u/vikraej

Take Care Of Yourself

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Christian Buehner / Unsplash

“Guys and/or girls who pride themselves on being able to out-drink or out-smoke everyone until they’re a blubbering mess. Or doing a bunch of drugs.”

“They think they’re so epic but it’s honestly embarrassing when it’s a constant and people have to babysit you during a get-together.” —u/bitter_theory5467

Don’t Be A Braggart

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Tyler Nix / Unsplash

“Flashing money/possessions. Nothing dries me up faster than a dude bragging about his watch or his car.” —u/redacted9133

Yeah, guys, bragging is the worst. Try being a little bit self-aware.

Cool It

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Jeffrey Keenan / Unsplash

“Being overly aggressive with other people. Like, you are out at a club with him and he is ready to pick fights with anyone who (he thinks) looks at him or me wrong.”

“I think it makes them feel macho but it’s a huge turn-off for me. It’s happened a few times, and the last time I just turned around and took a car home.” —u/GTmakesthepaingoaway

The Wrong Compliments

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Janko Ferlic / Unsplash

“This may not be a universal experience for women, but when I match online with guys and they immediately start giving me heaps of over the top compliments about how sexy I am, it’s a real turn off.”

“It’s uncomfortable to have a stranger commenting about your looks and sexualizing you before you’ve even met or talked, even if you do find that stranger attractive.” —u/titilate_an_ocelot

Man’s Work

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irene strong / Unsplash

“Women’s work and man’s work. I had an ex that said that and all he did was go to work and come home and sit in his recliner.”

“On his day off he never left the recliner. So I did all the men’s work and women’s work and paid half the bills. This 1950’s stuff doesn’t work for me if I am paying half the bills.”—u/truislove

Not A DIY Dude

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Charlie Green / Unsplash

“When they won’t let me do anything for myself.”

“I dated a man who refused to let me open doors for myself and when we went to the store he would grab products out of my hands while I was reading the nutrition label to do it himself. It became irritating and it made me feel like he thought I was dumb.” —u/invertedrose

Being Mean Isn’t Funny

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Ben Parker / Unsplash

“Being mean to or about women. No, I don’t think it’s funny that you just insulted the appearance of both my best friend and I.”

“No, that did not make me want to be with you.” —u/renaissancecryhard

Don’t Take Over The Conversation

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Fred Moon / Unsplash

“The one-up man. Almost always dominates the conversation and one-ups everyone else’s experiences and replies.”

“Shows me you’re immature and can’t hold a conversation without the focus being on you.”—u/geocentric_jujubee

Keep It To Yourself

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Ben Tofan / Unsplash

“Bragging about wealth, expensive possessions, and blatantly using the guise of ‘kindness’ or ‘charity’ to humble-brag. Basically just making yourself sound like a jerk!” —u/Bellezabubs

Bragging seems to be coming up a lot on this list. Men, take note.

Have A Sense Of Humor

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Brooke Cagle / Unsplash

“I don’t like a man who takes everything seriously.”

“Of course there are places to be serious, but not everywhere. Have a little fun in life, it’s to be enjoyed.” —u/Aevum13

Show Your True Colors

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Ali Morshedlou / Unsplash

“Being emotionally unavailable. Some men are raised to think that emotions and showing vulnerability is a weakness in character, when it’s actually a strength.”

“Connecting with someone and building emotional intimacy is what makes me even more attracted to them. I can’t do that if they refuse to show or communicate their feelings.” —u/editor3242

A Typical Gym Bro

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Amir Babaei / Unsplash

“There’s a very specific type of gym bro who may be conventionally attractive and buff, but they have no personality whatsoever.”

“Everything revolves around their gym schedule and eating brown rice, chicken, and broccoli every single day.” —u/What_the_A

So Many Smells

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Brooke Cagle / Unsplash

“Overdoing it on the cologne/aftershave. I don’t want to smell you across the room period.” —u/Capricorn_Alice

Just a little bit of cologne goes a long way. Or better yet, try none at all.

Make A Choice

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Logan Weaver / Unsplash

“Leaving every decision to me. If a man is my partner then I want his input on decisions, even if they’re just small ones like what movie to watch or what to have for dinner. Shrugging and saying “I don’t know. You decide.” all the time is not going to make me happy.”

“It’s lazy and it makes me feel more like a guy’s mother than his partner.” —u/Heart2001

Cool It With The Big Words

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Raghav Bhadoriya / Unsplash

“Acting like they know it all. Can’t have a conversation without them correcting you or using extra fancy words to seem smarter.”

“Like Ted Mosby when he corrects everyone and how he says encyclopedia.” —u/blueberrypotato

Another Gym Bro

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Timothy Barlin / Unsplash

“Making fitness / extreme sports / calorie counting your entire personality. I mean, I get it. It’s hard work. It takes discipline. Great job. I’m proud of you.”

Yes, your abs are hot. Yes, you worked very hard, I get it. But can we talk about other stuff now? Like, please? Show me you’re not some video game NPC programmed to repeat the same lines over and over again.” —u/forponderings

Don’t Talk About Previous Relationships

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Sigmund / Unsplash

“Talking about past hookups and either about how bad or good they were. Kinda like a whole hinting thing as to how good he is in bed.”

“Not even hinting sometimes tho.” —u/pumpkinthighs

Speeding Down The Road

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Nojan Namdar / Unsplash

“Guys that willingly terrify their dates in order to try to impress them. I had a guy take me on a motorcycle ride on a date once and he knew I’d never ridden before.”

“He got on the highway and was going 70+. I have never been more scared in my life and I started sobbing when we got to his place.” —u/broeskymchoesky