Woman Explains Why You Should Always Have Sex On The First Date—Could She Be Onto Something?

Any great relationship should also have great sex, but finding someone who you’re romantically into and who you’re also compatible with in bed can be a challenge.

One woman on TikTok has gone viral for a story she shared regarding the first time she and a man she’d been dating had sex. The problem? He had a secret kink that he didn’t disclose beforehand, and had she known, she would’ve kicked him to the curb.

Where Can A First Date Lead?

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Everyone has their idea of the perfect first date, and the courting phase of any relationship is exhilarating. You might be hoping that the date leads to something else, perhaps with a goodnight kiss or maybe even something more.

After going on multiple dates with a man, that’s what one woman was hoping for, but instead of a love connection, she learned an important lesson. (Please note that the following video contains profanity.)

The TikTok

Eve, also known as @eveculling on TikTok, recently shared a divisive video that has so far received 26 million views, 3.5 million likes, and tens of thousands of comments. In it, Eve recalls a sexual encounter she had with a man whom she had been dating, but one that didn’t quite go how she’d hoped.

“I’m going to tell you guys why it is crucial [and] important to have sex on the first date,” she says. “Hear me out.”

Getting Down And Dirty

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Eve begins her story by explaining that she was dating a man but they had decided to take things slowly. Over the course of a few months, they’d gone on between 10 and 15 dates before actually having sex.

Before engaging in sex for the first time, Eve asked him what he liked in bed, specifically whether or not he had any special kinks, to which he replied that he did not.

Talk Dirty To Me

Eve's surprised reaction as she films sitting in a car
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Photo Credit: @eveculling / TikTok

Eve says that at first, the sex was going well. But then he started to talk dirty, and what he said stunned Eve.

“I know what you’re thinking, ‘dirty talk is sexy, dirty talk is hot,’ I agree completely. But this man…could’ve said anything other than what he said. Let me reenact, I’m him okay? ‘Yeah, yeah, you want me to get you pregnant? You want me to put a baby in you so everyone knows you’re mine?'”

Red Flags Are Waving

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Photo Credit: Kai Bossom / Unsplash

Eve then clarifies that she’s not kink-shaming anyone and that everyone has their own personal preference for what they like in the bedroom. What she disliked however was the fact that when she asked him if he had any specific kinks, he said no.

“You don’t just spring that on somebody,” she says. “That is the least sexy thing you could possibly say.”

Have Sex On The First Date

A still of Eve during her TikTok video.
Photo Credit: @eveculling / TikTok
Photo Credit: @eveculling / TikTok

While the encounter freaked Eve out, the man had apparently asked her to talk dirty back to him, but she was taken aback, saying, “What do you want me to say? You wanna be a single dad? Yeah?'” Probably safe to assume there won’t be another date.

“Months of getting to know this guy, getting deep with him, getting personal with him? Out the door,” Eve says. “Have sex on the first date.”