Dating a manipulative person is exhausting, both emotionally and mentally.
It can feel like you're constantly being tested or convinced of things that you aren't comfortable with. The worst part is that most manipulative people have no intention of changing or acknowledging their harmful behavior.
The Classic "Flip The Narrative" To Play The Victim
Even after you get out of a toxic relationship, your manipulative ex can still impact your life.
One of a manipulator's greatest talents is "flipping" a situation around, making themselves seem like the victim.
Manipulative People Rarely Admit Or Accept That They Could Be Wrong
There are a handful of reasons that a manipulative person will never learn from their mistakes.
They rarely admit or accept when they are wrong. For the most part, they can't even understand the concept that they could be in the wrong in the first place.
They Have Narcissistic Qualities
Manipulative people tend to have some narcissistic qualities that make them comfortable with treating people poorly.
Their ego can easily get in the way of resolving problems and communicating with people, especially partners.
Always Playing The Victim After A Problem They Caused
A manipulative person who always plays the victim in a situation may start to convince themselves they really are the victim.
They will start seeing themselves as the person who needs pity or comfort after a breakup or fight, even if they caused it.
They Have Made Similar Mistakes In Their Past And Have No Intention Of Changing
They have made similar mistakes in their past relationships but made no effort to change their behavior.
This is why they will continue to have the same fight over and over again, never seeing themselves as the problem.
There Is Always Something Or Someone Else To Blame For A Problem
When a manipulative person is confronted with uncomfortable truths about their behavior, they immediately look for someone or something else to be the cause of the issue.
There will always be something or someone to blame other than themselves.
Nobody Has Called Them Out On Their B.S.
It is possible that a manipulative person has somehow made it this far in life without anyone ever calling them out on their bulls***.
If they have never been confronted and people tend to just write them off instead of explaining that their behavior is what's pushing others away, they will continue on their destructive, manipulative path.
They Thrive On Toxicity
If it seems like a manipulative person is always in the middle of some kind of drama, it's probably because they are.
People who thrive on toxicity and dysfunction struggle to break the pattern in new relationships.
They Can't Stick To Their Word
Manipulative people make a habit of going back on their word and it can give their partners emotional whiplash.
One day they are breaking up with you, the next day they are begging you to give things another chance because you're the love of their life.
Their Manipulation Skills Have Been Successful For Them In The Past
When their tactics have worked in the past, they know they can rely on them to get the things they want from a partner or whoever (it could be a coworker, family member, or friend).
A manipulative person will use the same techniques over and over until someone leaves them for good.
Manipulative People Rarely Stay In Relationships Long Enough To Learn Healthy Habits
Someone with manipulative tendencies either stays in a toxic relationship for too long or bounces around from fling to fling with no time in between to think about their actions.
It's hard for them to stay committed long enough to learn healthy habits in a relationship.
Everything Is A Joke To Them
Everything is a "joke" to them, so why should relationships be any different?
It's one of the easiest ways they can invalidate someone's feelings, and at the same time, clears them of any real responsibility for what they said because "it was just a joke."