Weeding out dating app matches to find one genuinely interested in having a normal conversation can be a challenging task. It can feel like searching for a needle in a haystack of hookups.
Don’t worry, there are some questions you can ask your matches to decide whether they are worth your time, or if they deserve a swift unmatch.
Dating Apps Can Leave You Feeling Discouraged
If dating apps have left you feeling like you’re not making any connections, you’re not alone.
Believe it or not, a lot of people don’t accurately fill out their profiles and it can mean that you may have swiped right by someone who you may actually have things in common with.
Is Your Perfect Match Hiding Behind A Crappy Profile?
It’s possible that your perfect match may not know what to share on their profile or even how to start a conversation.
The following conversational questions will help you do a little extra digging to find out whether you really have chemistry with someone before you set up a date.
“What Is Your Favorite Local Restaurant?”
Most people can agree on loving food in some capacity. Asking a match what their favorite local restaurant is can give you an idea of their vibe. Do they pick a fancy steakhouse or a family restaurant?
Plus, this question could spur a discussion about favorite dishes, or even a future date at the restaurant.
“Have You Ever Tried Online Dating Before?”
Remember to keep an open mind about their answer. Some people have been online dating longer than others and that’s okay.
On the flip side, other matches could be new to online dating which is possibly why they have a vague profile. If you find out they’re not great at communicating over the dating app, you can quickly move the conversation to another platform.
“What’s Your Favorite Movie Or TV Show?”
This is an awesome way to find out if your match is into comedy, romance, drama, or action-style entertainment, and whether you share similar interests.
Plus, if they haven’t seen one of your favorites it’s a good reason to plan a movie night.
“What’s Your Favorite Color?”
It sounds silly, but this is such a fun way to get to know someone, and unless they know any little kids, they may not have been asked the question in a long time.
You can even use the information to your advantage and wear something that color for a first date or special event in the future.
“What Music Have You Been Listening To Recently?”
Getting to know your match’s music preferences is a good ice breaker because you can start talking about recommendations and concerts you have attended.
Concerts can be fun, fairly casual dates that are usually enjoyable even if your date bombs.
“What Was The Last Album You Bought?”
Leaning into the music questions, you can ask specifically about the last album your match actually went out and purchased.
It’s rare for people to buy a physical album or purchase one on a streaming service nowadays, so it could just be the last one they remember buying. If they say “I don’t know” or “can’t remember,” you can kindly kill the convo before it starts.
“What’s The Funniest Story You Have From An Encounter On This App?”
It might seem weird to openly ask someone about their other matches, but that’s the beauty of dating apps—everyone who uses them has at least one horror story.
Joking about the misses can help you learn what kind of person they are to an extent. For example, is their story more rude than comical? If so, they may not be worth chatting with.
“What Are You Looking For In A Partner?”
This sounds like a loaded question, but it doesn’t really have to be.
It’s good to be on the same page about whether your match is looking for a friends-with-benefits situation, a hook-up partner, or a long-term commitment.
“Do You Believe In Astrology?”
This is one of those topics that some people feel super passionately about so it’s always interesting to see what a potential match has to say about it.
It can also reveal a lot about their personality. Are they open-minded and willing to discuss the idea or are they dismissive and condescending? Plus now you can creep each other’s horoscopes.
“What’s The Best Pizza Place Around Here?”
In this day and age, there is a pizza for every person (even the vegans and gluten-free folks).
It’s almost always a safe bet to ask your match where their favorite pizza place is and possibly plan to grab a slice together.
“Do You Play Any Sports?”
The gym life isn’t for everyone, and the people who love the gym usually love to tell you about it.
Ask your match whether they’re into any kind of sport activities. You may even find something you can do together like hiking, rock climbing, tennis, golf, or dancing.
“Do You Have Any Pets?”
Who doesn’t love to talk about their pets? Asking someone about their pets is a good way to find out whether they are committed to anything.
You can also branch into follow-up questions like “What was your favorite childhood pet?” and “If you could have any pet in the world, what would it be?”
“Where Is Your Favorite Spot To Vacation?”
This is a great way to learn whether your match has done any traveling or how they feel about seeing different places.
You may even learn something about their family’s background or culture.
“What Is Your Favorite Holiday Tradition?”
This is a cool way to find out if your match observes any special religious holidays, if they have a special love for Halloween or Christmas, or maybe a family story they are willing to share.
It’s always kind of nice to feel nostalgic.