In our society, we tend to make it seem like being in a long-term relationship is something everyone should aspire to. Being single is often cast in a light of being sad or unfulfilling, especially in movies and television.
However, that’s not exactly the case. These people came together on Reddit to share the reasons they actually really like being single and I couldn’t agree more.
You Only Have To Consider Yourself
Want to pack up your bags and move across the country? You can just do it.
When you have a romantic partner, making huge life changes is a lot harder because you have to consider how it will impact them.
You Just Sleep So Much Better
Want to stay up on your phone until 2 am? It’s fine. Want to go to bed at 9 pm? Not a problem.
Most importantly, you don’t have to deal with someone whose alarm goes off every five minutes for an hour before they actually get out of bed.
It’s So Easy To Lose Your Individuality In A Relationship
“…you don’t realize how much being in a relationship can blind you to how you’ve changed, or how love can numb you to certain things.”
“When I got out of that relationship and once the initial crying and being depressed phase ended, I slowly realized how much happier I was and how much I’ve changed (some of it good and some bad) but it was like being able to see myself through a clear lens and not through a distorted one.”
Amen To That
I’ve had romantic partners whose friends I absolutely adored and I loved spending time with them.
I’ve also had romantic partners whose friends I could not stand, so never seeing them again was a blessing.
I Love The Control
One of the most annoying parts of a relationship is that you end up mostly watching things that appeal to both of your interests.
There is something incredibly freeing about being able to watch anything you want whenever you want to.
Not A Single Thing Out Of Place
As someone who can be a bit neurotic and a bit of a neat freak, living with someone else can be a total nightmare.
It’s nice to not have to worry about someone else making a mess.
It’s All About Me!
It’s so much easier to just do whatever you want when you’re alone—there’s no one else to keep in mind.
Taking time just to be alone is also just more acceptable when you don’t have a significant other who wants to see you.
I Love Not Being Cheated On!
The truth is that opening yourself up to a relationship does make you very vulnerable to being hurt by a partner.
Being alone really does help you avoid a lot of emotional turmoil and distress.
Your Needs Come First
In a relationship, you do spend a lot of your time and energy catering to your partner’s needs, which frankly can get exhausting.
It is sometimes nice to just focus on yourself when you’re alone.
Normalize Thinking Out Loud!
Anyone who likes to think out loud can understand this one.
It’s totally chill to talk to yourself out loud when you’re alone, but it can feel uncomfortable or embarrassing if someone else is around.
This Is So Underrated
There are few things more infuriating than looking for something I put down in a certain spot and then not being able to find it because someone else moved it.
When you’re alone, you’re the only person who can mess you up.
Sweet, Sweet Silence
When you’re in a relationship, there is a general expectation that you’ll keep regular contact with your significant other.
As a single gal, I can go days without talking to anyone if that’s what I want.
You Really Build Yourself Up
Truly, it was not until I was single and not dating around at all that I grew to really love myself.
I mean, I genuinely enjoy my own company and can hype up all the things that I like about myself without anyone’s validation.
There’s A Sort Of Peace To That
This is very relatable: I mean, when I was last in a relationship, I was way more attentive to my phone and kept the ringer on.
Now I’ll spend hours with my phone away from me, completely unbothered about missing notifications or calls.
Gifts Are Stressful
In general, giving and getting gifts for a significant other can feel like navigating a minefield.
Is the thing you’re buying too expensive or not expensive enough? What if they get you something way nicer than you bought for them?
You Avoid A Bad Fate
It’s true: seeing the unhealthy or bad relationships that the people around me have isn’t all it’s cracked up to be.
I truly would rather be alone than trapped in an unhappy relationship.
Less Emotional Work For Sure
Of course, when you care about someone, you want to be there for them and listen to their struggles.
However, there is something nice about knowing you only have to deal with your own feelings on any given day.
When you’re single, it is so much easier to put your energy and focus into your own personal goals without the distraction of a partner’s needs or any relationship issues.
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I Do Prefer When My Life Is Not Ruined
Love really does make people do crazy things, and sometimes it can be really damaging.
While having a partner can be very rewarding, it can also make you irrational and sometimes derail your own well-being.
Not Being Murdered Is Pretty Nice
Crimes of passion are a common reason why people end up in a casket—there are few things that make people more murderous than love (or the lack of it).
I’m very happy staying single and un-murdered, thanks.