There are a lot of things that society has groomed men into thinking they either shouldn’t do or, if they do, they should not be very proud.
Reddit user TAL115 posed the question on an Ask Reddit thread and we’ve highlighted some of the most common responses below!
Not Following Sports
If you’re not watching the big game, that’s okay.
“Some people think a ‘real man’ has to have memorized the player rosters and team stats for every sport since the beginning of time.” —Nachtjaeger68 / Reddit
There is nothing wrong with showing some emotion; you shouldn’t have to hold in a cry.
“I always find my boyfriend the most attractive when he’s showing emotions.” —Emergency-Escape-538 / Reddit
This can be a hard one to come to terms with, but it’s okay to embrace going bald.
“If you have it rock it instead of leaving the few pieces of hair you have.” —Daybyhour69er / Reddit
Having An Affordable Car
A new car isn’t the only option.
“I’ve met a lot of people who will happily finance a $25,000 vehicle and take on car payments instead of purchasing a more affordable used vehicle with cash. It’s bizarre.” —GoldAvril / Reddit
Not Working Out
Men don’t need to always be hitting the gym.
“There are numbers my body will just never be able to safely and naturally be able to lift…it took me forever to realize it’s not a contest.” —Aol_awaymessage / Reddit
Whether it’s in your hair, beard, or both, don’t shy away from a little gray!
“I now have a massive grey strip under my nose that runs vertically through the beard. Looks awesome.” —AussieMilk / Reddit
Listening To “Girly” Music
“A lot of guys listen to heavy metal and rap and there are some guys who don’t and the guys who don’t get shamed depending on what they listen to.”
“Guys should not be shamed for listening to music.” —Awesomejuggler20 / Reddit
Seeking Mental Help
It’s okay to get the help that you need.
“Don’t worry too much if you don’t click with the first person you see. Therapists are humans and not every human is compatible with you.” —Respect4All_512 / Reddit
Being Skilled In The Kitchen
Knowing your way around the kitchen and having the ability to make a good meal or bake is something that’s important for everyone to be able to do.
“All of these things will serve you well as you get older.” —RubyOpal1022 / Reddit
Dealing With Medical Issues
“There are no embarrassing medical issues.” —maykachru / Reddit
This user summed it up perfectly: If you feel that there is something off or wrong with your body, there’s no reason not to go and have it looked at.
Being too tall or too short can be a hard thing for some men, but it doesn’t have to be.
“I don’t care if you’re tall or short. Any height is cool with me.” —NerdPerson10 / Reddit
Splitting A Log On The First Try
There’s a longstanding stereotype that all men should be able to chop through a log on the first swing.
This can actually be a very difficult task and it’s okay if it takes you a few attempts to get through it.
Taking Care Of Your Skin
Taking care of your skin is very important!
“I love how it used to or maybe still is referred to as ‘metro’ if you do those things as a man. No…you’re just taking care of yourself.” —Bizz_arre / Reddit
Lasting In The Bedroom
This was a topic that was brought up a lot.
“Duration isn’t important. Satisfaction is. As long as both (or all, what do I care) partners are satisfied, all’s good!” —dacsarac / Reddit
Not Being Handy
There are a lot of men that are not very handy when it comes to home repairs.
“Not knowing in-depth about electrical, carpentry, plumbing etc. Many guys can’t and it doesn’t make you less of a ‘man.'” —Irs21 / Reddit
“Maybe a guy likes pedicures or an old-timey straight razor shave or wearing fluffy housecoats. Go for it.”
“There’s no shame in doing things that bring a small measure of joy and comfort in a cold world.” —shaidyn / Reddit
Being Unable To Grow A Beard
A thick beard just isn’t realistic for everyone.
“The left side of my face grows thicker than the right side and the right side also has this one spot that refuses to grow anything when I do let it grow.” —Suspicious-Ad-3607 / Reddit
Income At Your Job
“You are not less of a man because you are not doing 6 digits.” —mikotoqc / Reddit
For some people, a high-earning job is very important, but it isn’t anything to be ashamed of either way.
“It ain’t about the size of the ship or the motion of the ocean…”
“It’s about whether or not the captain can stay in port long enough to get all his sailors off.” —Takemysoul / Reddit
Enjoying “Female” Things
“You are no less a man because you like to pamper yourself.”
“I know plenty of guys who wear women’s deodorant because they want to smell like lavender and not ‘Wolfspluge’ or whatever.” —SalemScout / Reddit