Men Share Things They Find Attractive Even If Women Get Self-Conscious About Them

As the wise philosophers Niall, Liam, Louis, Harry, and Zayn once said, “You’re insecure—don’t know what for. You’re turning heads when you walk through the door.”

Everyone has little things that they can feel insecure or self-conscious about, even if other people don’t perceive those things as flaws. These men on Reddit came together to share things they actually find attractive even though women in their lives have felt self-conscious about them.

It’s Cute To Talk About Your Passions

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Matheus Ferrero // Text Credit: Reddit / Nolbody

“When girls nerd out and will just talk for hours about their favorite things or just one little thing they’re interested in.”

“Every girl I know that does this will get super embarrassed when they realize how long they’ve been talking, but I think it’s cute listening to them talk so passionately about the things they like.”

Morning After Makeup Is Apparently A Look

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Element5 Digital // Text Credit: Reddit / DirtyMcCurdy

“Day-old makeup. My wife does not wear makeup often, but when she leaves eyeliner or a bit messy it’s just amazingly beautiful.”

“She is stunning no matter what she decides to do with her appearance. The day-old makeup thing just does something for me.”

Really?

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Kelly Sikkema // Text Credit: Reddit / Boris740

“When you have a cold and talk in a husky voice.”

I genuinely hate the way my voice sounds when I’m sick because it vaguely sounds like Christian Bale in Batman, but okay.

Tangles Are Cute, Apparently

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Vera Gorbunova // Text Credit: Reddit / IneptChildTheFirst

“Messy hair. Pretty cute.”

As someone who is a bit of a perfectionist, I get pretty annoyed or self-conscious when my hair isn’t exactly in place the way I want it to be, so this is reassuring.

This Is So Wholesome

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Dương Trần Quốc // Text Credit: Reddit

“I usually don’t say anything, but when I snap a random picture and she tells me to delete it. I say no, and then she says yes, and persistent about it until I do.”

“I like those pictures.”

Sweatpants, Hair Tied, Chilling With No Makeup On

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Pamela Lima // Text Credit: Reddit / Vexx1513

“When she is comfortable—like wearing those baggy pajama pants and big shirt without makeup while sitting on the couch watching her favorite show.”

“That is the time when you say she’s gorgeous and she doesn’t believe you.”

Let Your Talent Shine

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Thiago Barletta // Text Credit: Reddit / Zacoftheaxes

“Their artistic skills.”

“There are women I knew who were great at drawing or had beautiful singing voices or could write amazing stories but were mortified about sharing their talents with others.”

Will Stretch More Often

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Fabian Albert // Text Credit: Reddit / HumanGeneral3567

“I don’t know if women are self-conscious about this, but when you gals have a shorter shirt on and you stretch, and your shirt lifts up to show your tummy.”

I will be wearing that slightly cropped top in my closet a little more often.

Big, Small, And Any Shape

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Hello I’m Nik // Text Credit: Reddit / nap0202

“Such a stereotypical answer but I know a lot of girls who are insecure about their boobs and I promise you, as a member of the male species, we don’t care what size they are.”

“We like all of them.”

Decisiveness Is Hot

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Team Fredi // Text Credit: Reddit / tommytster

“Being able to clearly and confidently state what you want without being demanding or inflexible.”

“For example, saying, ‘ want my own fries, but just a small order please,’ or ‘I’d like to watch a stupid romantic comedy and scroll through social media while cuddling with you.'”

Nothing Like A Little Blushing

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Annie Spratt // Text Credit: Reddit / Bat_Tasty

“When your face gets red and you try to hide it.”

I mean, I guess it makes sense: there’s a reason that women wear blush on their cheeks. I just never thought about it as being something attractive.

All Sizes Are Cute

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Photo Credit: Pexels / PIxabay // Text Credit: Reddit / yingyang107

“Your height.”

I’ve met women who are self-conscious about how tall they are and, in contrast, women who feel self-conscious about how short they are. I’m glad it doesn’t really matter that much to men.

Your Natural Features Are Something To Celebrate

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Chermiti Mohamed // Text Credit: Reddit / AgentHellion

“Freckles, blemishes, and thick eyebrows, I find them to be very cute.”

I think we spend so much time picking apart our imperfections or marks on our skin that we don’t like that it can be hard to realize others like them.

Will Be Wearing A Messy Bun More Often

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Tyler Nix // Text Credit: Reddit / DoodlebugRocket

“I’m not sure if girls are self-conscious about this, but a messy bun will win me over easy.”

This is so funny to me because I feel like a messy bun is just something we toss our hair into out of frustration of it falling into our face.

Don’t Worry About The Snort

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Priscilla Du Preez // Text Credit: Reddit / undeniablybuddha

“When a woman is laughing, I mean really laughing that she snorts.”

“There is that quick moment of embarrassment when she realized what she did. That one moment is it.”

I Can Back This Up

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Photo Credit: Pexelss / Enrique Hoyos // Text Credit: Reddit / Supaleenate

“My girlfriend is from Québec. She’s conscious of her accent, but dammit it’s adorable.”

I feel like this goes for both men and women who have accents and get embarrassed when they mispronounce words, but it’s actually endearing.

All Bodies Are Beautiful

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Photo Credit: Pexels / Andres Ayrton // Text Credit: Reddit / tommytster

“Being a little ‘soft’ or having a few extra pounds.”

I guess we’re all so used to seeing perfectly thin, toned bodies everywhere in the media that we hold ourselves to that standard, even if it’s unrealistic.

It’s A For Effort

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Annie Spratt // Text Credit: Reddit / Roggnak

“Just how good your makeup may look. Most guys (in my experience) appreciate the effort you ladies put in to look nice, whether it’s for us or yourself.”

“Many won’t even notice an imperfection until you mention it.”

Vulnerability Is Hot

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Sonniie Hiles // Text Credit: Reddit / Dances28

“Being self-conscious. Being vulnerable makes you appear more human and relatable. I think there’s a TedTalk about this somewhere.”

I guess it makes sense: I’m most attracted to people who are able to be open about their struggles because I can relate to them.

You Are Someone’s Cup Of Tea

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Christiana Rivers // Text Credit: Reddit / Vlad-V-Vladimir

“Don’t be too concerned about yourself.”

“No matter what there’ll always be a group of people who are attracted to the feature you’re probably self-conscious of (and some who are VERY attracted).”