Some people don’t take rejection well and go demanding answers. Usually, this is a way for them to get closure rather than internalize their hurt. This may be fair when you’ve actually established a connection.
Yet in this woman’s case, a man reached out to her to complain that she didn’t match with him on Bumble. She took the opportunity to put him in his place.
The Incident Happened A Year Ago
The incident clearly marked Natalia as she felt like celebrating its anniversary a year later. She refers to it as a great moment in incel history.
The term “incel” means to be involuntary celibate, and describes the people who aren’t able to find a romantic partner even though they want one.
The Man First Messaged Her About Soup
The man’s identity was kept hidden He slid into her DMs on Instagram with a message about soup.
It seemed innocent enough so Natalia responded back. It didn’t take long before he revealed his real motives.
The Man Felt Offended
The man felt entitled to take offense that Natalia didn’t swipe right on his profile on Bumble.
So as one does, he remembered her picture, used only her first name, and managed to search for and find her Instagram account so he could let her know how upset he was.
He Felt Harshly Judged
The man didn’t understand why she would accept his message about soup on Instagram, yet she wouldn’t swipe right on his picture.
He assumed that meant that she harshly judged his profile. Yet, she didn’t even recall coming across it.
He Thought Her (Implied) Number Of Matches Was Scandalous
Clearly, this man doesn’t get very many matches because the whole point of dating apps is matching with as many suitors as possible so we actually have potential options.
It’s necessary because half of them turn out like this guy. You need to have backups.
He Wanted Her To Make Him Feel Better
For some reason, this man expected Natalia—a woman whom he had never spoken to or met before—to make him feel better about being single.
Natalia, however, knew that she didn’t owe him that kind of validation and she spoke her mind.
Natalia Got The Last Word
Despite being called out, the man still felt like defending his action. This ended up being an invitation to be called out further.
Natalia then called out exactly how he handled the situation to make it clear how he came across. If he was single, it was likely his own fault.
Twitter Users Applauded Her
Natalia’s thread gained the attention of thousands of Twitter users. The majority supported her and even agreed with her stance.
It was clear to many that the man felt insecure and was looking for any way to be validated, even if it meant insulting his way into a compliment.
This Is Why Online Dating Is Hard
Some Twitter users thought that this incident was just another example of why online dating is hard.
This is something people who are married or have been in relationships that date back longer than the existence of Tinder simply don’t get because they’ve never had to suffer through it.
Maybe We Can Blame Romcoms
Maybe guys think this kind of behavior is acceptable because it makes for the premise of many romcoms.
Somehow the woman and the man who was a jerk to her the whole movie finally fall in love or she caves and goes out with the man she rejected seven times who wouldn’t leave her alone. Maybe we need better standards.