After Their Dates Didn’t Work Out, This Guy Is Asking For A Refund

When you go out on a date, there is often that conversation about who is going to pay. Maybe he pays, maybe she does, or maybe you split it right down the middle. But usually, there is no expectation that someone is going to pay for you, right? It’s one of the important things to discuss if you want to do things right.

A Woman In Wisconsin Has Twitter In A Heated Debate

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Photo Credit: Instagram / @alexcolboth
Photo Credit: Instagram / @alexcolboth

Alex Colboth of Milwaukee posted a private message she got from a Tinder match she went on a few dates with.

The message, asking for some money back since things didn’t work out, surprised her.

She Posted The Message On Twitter With The Caption, “It’s The Audacity For Me”

Text message: Hi Alex hope you're doing well. Would you mind letting me know what your Venmo is? The reason I ask is since you and I won't be seeing each other anymore it's only fair to ask for equal payment from you from the dates we went on. I believe it was three separate times we went out to bars / restaurants where I paid for us both each time. I'd say $35 is more than fair for your food and drinks that I got you during those dates. I view you as a fair girl, I hope you'll consider reimbursing me. Thanks!
Photo Credit: Twitter / @alexx_colboth
Photo Credit: Twitter / @alexx_colboth

The message isn’t rude, by any means. He’s to the point and breaks it down for her, but the text still left her confused.

Is this OK? Can someone do this? They never talked about going Dutch on dates before.

People On Twitter Were Torn

Tweet: Him asking for the dates to be split evenly isn't the issue here. It's that he waited until after he knew things wouldn't continue to ask. So he wasn't paying to be nice in the first place, he was paying with the expectation of some reward (sex, companionship etc) which is weird
Photo Credit: Twitter / @laureennnn14
Photo Credit: Twitter / @laureennnn14

There were some people who pointed out that it was actually really gross for him to ask for the money back.

It implies that he had expected to get repaid in other ways, and since he didn’t, he wanted his money back. Him paying for the dates was conditional on.

It Makes You Feel Kind Of Dirty

Tweet: He could have asked her to split the night of any of those dates. But he waited until he knew it was going nowhere and he wouldn't get reimbursed with her so he wants to be reimbursed with the money instead. Avoid these men at all costs.
Photo Credit: Twitter / @NoemieSerieux
Photo Credit: Twitter / @NoemieSerieux

Getting a message like this really could leave someone feeling bad about themselves. Not because they broke up with them, but because all they saw their time together as was a transaction.

She’s an actual human being, and it makes you feel like you’re not.

You Never Know If Dates Are Going To Pan Out

Tweet: Dating is like gambling. You put your time, money, whatever into it and sometimes it doesn't work out and you leave empty handed. You made the decision to spend money and now you're mad you didn't win? The casino don't owe you
Photo Credit: Twitter / @notneeva
Photo Credit: Twitter / @notneeva

Someone pointed out that any date you go on is going to be a gamble. You don’t know if things are going to work out in advance.

So you can’t have conditions and then be mad when things don’t work out how you wanted them to.

Some People Suggested He Needed The Money

Tweet: I have never personally done this, but I think it's ok. CK managed to say something uncomfrotable, was honest about what he was hoping to accomplish and did it respectfully. I think its' wacky y'all poor shaming this dude. Y'all forget how many people outta work, cold and hungry?
Photo Credit: Twitter / @MD_notified
Photo Credit: Twitter / @MD_notified

People in the comments were saying that it might be that CK is hurting for money in a way he wasn’t on their dates.

It’s not an ideal way to get some money, but maybe he was desperate enough?

Then There Were Those Who Defended Him

Tweet: He corny for asking that but realistically ya'll gotta stop expecting everything for free, wanna be equal so bad until it comes to the stuff y'all don't like. (side not I'll gladly pay for dates) but I've seen some women act mad entitled and for what lmaoo
Photo Credit: Twitter / @dominick_keene
Photo Credit: Twitter / @dominick_keene

There were a lot of people in the comments who were going off about how women want all things to be equal until they don’t.

Obviously, these comments entirely miss the point about why Alex was upset with the message.

Luckily, People Were There To Set Them Straight

Tweet: No one expects anything to be for free. If you wanna split the bill just say that. Majority of women have absolutely no problem with that. But if you cover three dates and never ask once to go dutch then ask only after things didn't work out a month later that's on you
Photo Credit: Twitter / @guessimback__
Photo Credit: Twitter / @guessimback__

The point wasn’t really the money. It never was. It was that he said nothing about money until after the fact when things didn’t work out between them.

What do you think? Do you think it’s justified?