Men Talk About The Things They Never Knew Until Living With A Woman

Someone on Reddit recently posed the question: “What did you not know or realize until after living with a woman?” and people did not hold back.

It turns out that if you’ve never lived with a partner or a spouse, or anyone of a different gender than you, there might be some unexpected things you’re going to learn.

Protect The Good Ones

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Photo Credit: Annie Spratt / Unsplash

“That she owns only one truly GOOD BRA. There is only one and part of your duty as a man is to protect The Good Bra. If you are doing laundry, you must take the greatest of precautions to make sure it is properly cleaned, dried, and stored.”

“God forbid The Good Bra ever turn up missing or in the wrong drawer.” —StillHereU- / Reddit

There’s Absolutely A Double Standard

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Photo Credit: sidekix media / Unsplash

“If you leave something on the kitchen counter, it will get put/thrown away.”

“If she leaves something on the kitchen counter, that’s where it goes now.” —The_Bee_Sneeze / Reddit

It’s Not All Bad When You Live Together

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Photo Credit: Sinitta Leunen / Unsplash

“I didn’t realize the amount of comfort I would get. I always thought it would be like having a roommate but it’s way different especially with a SO.”

“When my girlfriend and I started living together I felt more comfortable in just about every way in my own apartment. The empathy and emotions brought to the place is also incredible.” —SoapsDisc / Reddit

It’s There For A Reason

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Photo Credit: Christa Grover / Pexels

“If they leave stuff at the bottom of the stairs, that means you’re supposed to bring it up.”

“If it’s at the top of the stairs, you should bring it down.” —Brianplease / Reddit

His Version Sounds Painful

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Photo Credit: Karolina Grabowska / Pexels

“I always thought that pads operated like bandaids and they’d just slap em over their vaginas and absorb everything. It wasn’t until I was… 27?”

“My girlfriend at the time had some as a backup in case she ran out of tampons and I opened it and looked. The adhesive was on the wrong side for my version of how they worked, and it dawned on me.” —mye-isbigger / Reddit

Does It Matter, As Long As They’re Folded?

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Photo Credit: Karolina Grabowska / Pexels

“The way I had been folding towels for years was apparently incorrect. I do the tri-fold method. My wife does the double-fold method. Oh well. First argument we had as a married couple and I lost.”

“She was unusually upset over the way I folded towels” —Reddit

Shoes Everywhere

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Photo Credit: Kelly Lacy / Pexels

“There will be 5+ pairs of shoes, not IN the shoe rack, but near it.”

“Or behind the door so it jams / just waiting to trip me if I enter the house without checking for landmines wayward vans slip ons.” —McDie88 / Reddit

Stick To Drying The Dishes

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Photo Credit: Nathan Dumlao / Unsplash

“I’ve been doing the dishes wrong my entire life.” —Sudden_Ad_1974 / Reddit

There’s a right and a wrong way to do dishes, and usually only one person in the house gets to decide what the right way is.

It’s Like When She Says She Doesn’t Want Fries

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Photo Credit: Gary Barnes / Pexels

“She’s a vegetarian and I’m not so we agreed we’d cook 1 or two meals together each week but otherwise cook our own food.”

“Translation: I’d better go ahead and cook twice as much stuff because she still calls herself a vegetarian if she ‘just has a few bites’ of the stuff I’m cooking.” —HairHeel / Reddit

You Still Want Her To Shower Every Day, Don’t You?

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Photo Credit: Andrea Davis / Unsplash

“Apparently showering and washing your hair are separate events.” —loercase / Reddit

Not every shower is going to involve washing your hair. Hair washing days are only a couple of times a week.

The Tidiness Was A Facade

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Photo Credit: Onur Bahcivancilar / Unsplash

“They’re not nearly as neat and tidy as they want you to believe.” —MystikxHaze / Reddit

She probably used to tidy her apartment before you’d come over to visit, but now you’re living together so her mess is yours too.

It Takes A Lot To Look Good

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Photo Credit: Karolina Grabowska / Pexels

“3 different shampoos and conditioners, tens of different lipsticks, 3 foundations, makeup brushes, contouring brushes, makeup remover, so many earrings and accessories.”

“It’s not even like these were superficial/vain women. This is just the bare minimum of how they care for their appearance. Meanwhile I’m buying my all-in-one body wash, deodorant and mouthwash and calling it done.” —amwren / Reddit

Buy Them In Bulk

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Photo Credit: Katherine Frey / The Washington Post via Getty Images

“Girl Scout Thin Mint cookies are meant to be consumed a full tube at one sitting.”

“Here I was keeping mine in the fridge and eating just one or two cookies a week.” —miniscant / Reddit

Sounds Like A Hairy Situation

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Photo Credit: drunkonlacroix / Reddit

“When long, loose head hairs wash off in the shower, it’s common practice to stick them to the wall rather than let them collect in the drain.”

“If she forgets to remove them afterwards, it can be very confusing for the next person in the shower. Why are there a bunch of individual strands of hair deliberately stuck to the wall?” —ProfessorBrooks / Reddit

Your Own Indoor Forest

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Photo Credit: Huy Phan / Pexels

“How nice house plants are. Now I have all kinds of plants and my place feels so much more nice and relaxing.” —the_monkey_of_lies / Reddit

It’s like you get to relax in the garden, except it’s inside the comfort of your own home.

So Your Life Has Been Improved

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Photo Credit: Vojtech Okenka / Pexels

“I learned to rip a cupcake in half, flip the top of the cupcake with the frosting so you have a frosting sandwich.” —Indian_Tacoo / Reddit

This seems like an upside.