Intelligent Women Are Staying Single For Longer—Why Is It So Hard For Smart Women To Date?

Women who tend to stay single may have a variety of reasons they choose the solo life, but one of the most straightforward reasons is simply that they are smarter.

Women who are more emotionally and intellectually intelligent tend to have a harder time finding a man to date (if that’s who they’re into) and the reasons why are kind of sad.

It’s Nearly Impossible To Find A Partner Who Challenges Them Intellectually

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Women who regularly enjoy intellectually stimulating conversations in their day-to-day lives also seek them out in their romantic relationships.

The truth is, not all men can keep up with these women’s interests and desire to talk or debate about challenging and complex topics.

It’s Hard To Find Someone Who Can Fulfill Their Emotional Needs

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For the women who are highly in tune with their emotions, it can be hard to find a man that has the same awareness of his own, let alone someone else’s.

Opening up emotionally is a risk-reward situation for emotionally intelligent women who can never be sure if a partner will meet their expectations or be scared off by their forwardness.

Many Men Are Intimidated By Smart, Confident Women

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It’s hard to go out on dates if you never get past your first interaction, especially because first impressions are everything for some people.

Smart, confident women know what they’re after and they radiate that energy—whether it’s intentional or not. Many men can pick up on this type of personality and don’t want to give the relationship a chance.

It’s Difficult To Find A Partner Who Can Satisfy Them Sexually

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The thing about being independent is that it extends to most areas of your life, and that includes sex and self-pleasure.

Single women can get very in touch with their own bodies during the time they spend alone and have a hard time introducing a man back into the mix.

Some Men Don’t Have The Patience To Communicate With A Smart Woman

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Honestly, it can be exhausting to be a “smart woman,” and even more exhausting to date one.

Being constantly engaged in debate with both yourself and others gets a bit easier if you can find a partner with similar interests or great listening skills.

Smart Women Are Financially Independent—And That Scares Some Men

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Financial independence is at the root of true independence. Basically, the most freedom a woman can have is the ability to financially support herself and her chosen lifestyle.

Additionally, some men are uncomfortable dating a woman who makes more money than them for a variety of reasons. Most popularly, men aspire to be the primary income provider and it highlights a career divide.

Intelligence Level Is Often Viewed As A Competition

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If you’ve read about the Alpha/Beta male titles, this is definitely an alpha male play. Some men immediately seek out competition among people who appear to be stronger than them, whether physically or intellectually, men or women.

For instance, men who call women “know-it-alls” when they’re discussing something they are passionate about are the kind of guys smart women are trying to avoid.

Smart Women Are Confidently Independent

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A single young woman is determined to get sh*t done and take no crap while doing so.

She can learn to navigate, repair, or problem-solve most situations fairly quickly, and if you can open your own jars, who needs a man anyway, right? Just kidding. Kind of.

Smart Women Actively Choose To Be Single

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A smart woman knows that she doesn’t need a man to be successful in her life or career.

She makes it clear that even though her partner is extremely important to her, he is not the center of her world, which can be off-putting to some men who thrive on commitment.

Smart Women Have High Standards And Stick To Them

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Women who are smarter tend to have their relationship standards figured out and set in stone, so to speak.

It’s hard to meet someone who lives up to your standards when you have set them insanely high.

Women Are Less Likely To Pursue Marriage Today

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Nowadays, it’s not uncommon for young, well-educated women to put off marriage until later in life, or skip it altogether. Gasp!

With so many women opting out of the marriage game, it’s hard for smart women to see the point in seriously dating during the time they’re focused on other life goals like work or traveling, for example.

Women Who Put Their Body And Mind First Can Be Scary To Men Who Are Not In The Same Place

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The smartest women don’t always adhere to typical beauty standards, mostly because they have figured out society’s reliance on making money off of women’s insecurities.

While these women can embrace their individualities, it can be much harder for men to break free from their own understandings of “femininity,” and to look past things like a woman not shaving her legs, or having a shaved head.

Open Communication Is Key

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The way around a lot of these issues is open communication.

If a woman can explain that she needs her own life outside of a man and he can learn to respect this important bit of information without feeling personally attacked, it should be smooth sailing.