Questions To Start A Conversation With Someone That Aren’t ‘How Was Your Day?’

“How was your day?” is a common question to ask someone at the end the day, which some relationship experts say is the problem. It’s such a common question that it becomes a part of our routine, and you never dive past the surface with your answers.

Whether you’re trying to start a conversation with that new guy you’re talking to on Tinder, or talking to your long-term girlfriend, here are some questions to ask someone that aren’t the typical line.

Did You Read Anything Interesting Today?

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Roman Kraft

In a world where we’re constantly consuming content, there must be at least one thing that they read about today or learned that you didn’t, but now they can tell you about it.

What Was The Best Song You Listened To?

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Photo Credit: Pexels

Did they discover a new band that they think you’ll like too, or did they listen to the new Ariana Grande album on repeat for yet another day because they’re obsessed with it?

Did Anyone Annoy You Today?

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Toa Heftiba

In an ideal world, none of us would ever get annoyed by the people around us, but that’s not realistic. Let them air their grievances and share what or who annoyed them.

How Did You Help Someone Else?

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Bruce Mars

No matter how small the act, anyone can feel a little bit of pride at the end of the day by remembering that they were able to help someone else in some way.

If We Could Leave On A Vacation Tomorrow, Where Would You Go?

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / David Marcu

Who doesn’t love the opportunity to daydream a little bit? Maybe a real vacation plan will stem from this question depending on how seriously you take it or how long you end up discussing it!

Did Anything Surprise You Today?

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Ashkan Forouzani

You might not be a fan of surprises, whether they’re good or bad, but it’s good to have a little mystery in life. If something managed to surprise you, that means you learned something or broke away from your normal day, even if just for a few moments.

What Do You Wish You Did More/Less Of?

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Charles Deluvio

You don’t necessarily have control over everything you do in a day, but looking in general at what you do and deciding what you don’t enjoy or what you loved is important.

Did You Feel Appreciated Today?

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Adam Winger

Everyone wants to end their day knowing that they’re appreciated by the people around them, but that isn’t always the case. This question lets you know how your partner or friend is feeling, but it also lets you check in with yourself.

How Can I Make Your Day Easier?

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Priscilla Du Preez

This one can go together with the previous question, because if someone didn’t feel appreciated that day, maybe you’re in a position to make them feel better now! You never know.

What App Did You Open Most Today?

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / William Hook

Did they spend the entire day frantically checking the New York Times app to see if there was any breaking news, or did they need to tune out the world that day so they had Apple Music running all afternoon?

Did You Run Into Anyone You Know?

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Photo Credit: Pexels / Helena Lopes

Maybe they ran into an old colleague or ducked down a side street when they saw someone they went to high school with walking towards them. It’ll make for a good retelling later on.

What Made You Laugh Today?

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Analise Benevides

There could be some funny office shenanigans that took place, or maybe they watched a funny video that they want to share with you so you could share in their joy.

What Did You Have For Lunch Today?

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Photo Credit: Pexels / Keegan Evans

A follow-up to this one could also be “what do you wish you had for lunch today?” if they had a particularly bland ham sandwich for their lunch that day.

Who Would You Cast To Star In A Movie About Your Day?

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Photo Credit: Pexels / Jack Sparrow

You could assign some deeper meaning to this one, but really, it’s just a fun way to get someone thinking about their day in a different way than the basic way we’re all used to.

How Much Coffee Did You Drink Today?

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Nathan Dumlao

If coffee isn’t their thing, you could swap it for tea, water, pop, whatever they’re known for drinking a lot of, or maybe what they’re trying to cut back on consuming so much of. See if they’re sticking to their promise of drinking only one cup of coffee and a gallon of water a day.

Would You Redo Any Part Of Your Day?

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Photo Credit: Pexels

This is a good moment for reflection. You can’t have a do-over day, but you’ll probably run into the same scenarios another day as you did today, so they can consider how to handle it next time.

Did You Take Any Photos Today? Of What?

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Photo Credit: Pexels / Oleg Magni

If you’re lucky, maybe they met a super cute puppy at their lunch break and took a picture but forgot to send it to you, so now’s the chance for them to share.

Tell Me About The Worst Part Of Your Day—In Just Two Minutes

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Photo Credit: Pexels

If someone had a bad day, chances are they’re going to want to talk about it, or at least part of it. The key is to set the time limit—not because you don’t care enough to listen longer, but because you want to set a limit for them. Don’t let them wallow in the bad moments of the day for too long.

What Superpower Could’ve Helped You Today?

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Photo Credit: Pexels / Ketut Subiyanto

Maybe if you had been invisible, you wouldn’t have been pulled into that boring meeting, or if you had the ability to read minds, you would have been able to know exactly what your friend was thinking and you would have avoided that argument.

What’re You Looking Forward To Tomorrow?

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Leon Seibert

If today wasn’t a good day, focus on the future and think about what could be great about tomorrow. There is always something to look forward to, even if that day wasn’t particularly exciting.