A mother on Reddit is asking the internet if she might’ve done something wrong after bringing her baby to a wedding that was explicitly meant to be childfree.
No room for kids
The mother in question explained that her cousin, the groom, was getting married in a venue that was a 6-hour drive away.
Due to a lack of space at the venue, the bride and groom decided to have a childfree wedding.
She didn’t want to leave her baby with the sitter
According to the mother, she understood that the wedding was planned to be childfree, but didn’t feel comfortable leaving her 10-month-old baby with a babysitter that one of her other cousins arranged for their kids.
And here’s where things get messy.
She decided she would bring her baby anyways
The mother states that she “wrote on the RSVP that I was bringing him but he would be sitting on my lap and I would bring my own food for him. My cousin didn’t say anything so I assumed that he was OK with it.”
Clearly, her baby was coming with her unless she heard back.
No Response = Yes?
At this point, Redditors were quick to point out that the mother did not explicitly explain her situation to the bride and groom, and simply took the lack of a response as a confirmation that her decision to bring her baby to a childfree wedding was ok.
But Redditor u/Oberyn_Kenobi_1 doesn’t see how that would be ok. “At a minimum, you should’ve actually called them to ask instead of just taking their lack of response as assent, though that still would’ve been awful since they likely would’ve felt awkward saying no.”
Well, at least the baby didn’t make too much of a fuss…
At the ceremony itself, the mother admits that the baby cried but that she “quickly took him out of the room”.
Later, at the reception, her baby “didn’t make much of a fuss and I thought everything was OK.”
It was only after the wedding that the mother’s aunt confronted her and told her that she had been rude by bringing her child with her to the wedding. Redditors agree with the aunt, noting that the mother acted as if she was above the rules and acted out of an extreme sense of entitlement.
“YTA – and your aunt is kind of right. It’s rude to disregard people’s feelings about a day they are paying for. While you took him out when he cried, it’ll still be in the video. You didn’t mean to start any drama, but you also ignored the wishes of the bride and groom.” – u/gurlwithdragontat2
You’re in the wrong
The majority of Redditors in the comments of the Reddit post agree that the mother was definitely in the wrong and that there were multiple ways to avoid the drama that the mother said she wanted to avoid.
Commentor u/brainybae wrote, “your baby literally did the thing that the bride/groom wanted to avoid – disrupt the ceremony. You had plenty of time to find a babysitter or other family member to watch your kid while you went to the wedding but decided that you were just above the rules.”
Childfree means childfree
The general consensus is that bringing a child to a childfree wedding is definitely the wrong choice to make.
As a wedding is a couple’s happiest day, taking it upon yourself to ignore their wishes for their wedding is definitely a major faux pas.