Ah yes, the mystery of the elusive opposite sex. It’s no secret that men and women think differently, behave differently, respond to situations differently—basically, they’re just different.
And as hard as we try, we’re never going to fully understand the opposite sex without talking to them and hearing from them. All those clichés and ideas women have been taught about men since they were children might not actually be true. These men on Reddit decided to set the record straight about a few things.
It’s Not Just About That
“I don’t want to [sleep with] every single girl I see or talk to, I’ve had plenty of genuine conversations with women for the sake of conversation. All my friends thought I was flirting with this girl at the bar a few weeks ago, but we were just talking about The Mandalorian.” —Reddit
You Can’t Babysit Your Own Children
“When watching their own children and someone says ‘Aww look who’s babysitting today.'” —Reddit / buh-roken
A father spending time with their child is not “babysitting,” it’s literally just parenthood.
The People Have Spoken
“Men think about sex every 2 minutes or whatever stupid number they’re using.” —Reddit / wehosh
“That we just want sex. I just want to be in a relationship. Maybe I am the oddball, but sex has always been secondary to me.” —Reddit / Samisoy001
“We all have sex on our mind 24/7. Maybe horny teenage boys and lonely old men.” —Reddit / Here_to_keep_It_Real
It Takes A Lot Of Effort To Make A Man Out Of Him
“That we must be swift as the coursing river, have the force of a great typhoon, possess the strength of a raging fire, and be as mysterious as the dark side of the moon.” —Reddit / NSA_Chatbot
It really seems like we should be more clear about our expectations if this is what men think we’re asking of them.
The Age-Old Debate
“‘Men and women can’t be just friends.’ I’ve had lady friends my whole life, and no, as it turns out, I can be friends with people and not want to have sex with them.
“I just think this one is senseless, and it propagates the idea that people should avoid each other on a friendly basis because they’re a different gender.” —Reddit / codered434
Women Are Much Worse Than Men For This
“Women seem to have this weird idea that guys talk about their sexual conquests at great length and in great detail. We don’t. THEY do.” —Reddit / mikdavi84
Women need to remember that in general, men talk to their friends about their personal life much less than women do. If your boyfriend comes home from hanging out with his friends for a few hours and claimed they talked about “nothing,” that’s not a lie.
Not! All! Men!
“That all men cheat. I can’t even get a girlfriend, how do you think Imma cheat?” —Reddit / JustAnAwkwardPotatoe
No, but seriously. Not all men are the enemy. They’re not all going to be liars and cheaters, you just have to get better at picking your prospects.
Is This A Thing?
“‘Men don’t make good teachers’ My favorite teacher ever is a man and he is so much more chill and easy to understand than some of my female teachers.” —Reddit / Ultrawesomegaming
The Song Lied
“I have never felt compelled to trespass onto someone’s property due to the presence of milkshakes.” —Reddit / Safebiscuit99
So that’s why all those milkshakes we’ve been making for years haven’t brought any boys to the yard?
Everyone Likes Positive Attention!!
“We actually love the attention just as much as women do. And cuddling too.” —Reddit / themanyfaceasian
This really should not be such a revolutionary concept. Why would a man not want to feel good about himself or feel wanted?
PSA: The Groom Might Care About The Wedding Too
“People are always so surprised when we were planning a wedding and I said ‘I’m in charge of catering, the cake, the DJ, and centerpieces.’ They were amazed that I cared about my wedding and wanted to help plan it.” —Reddit / BlazinAzn38
Women Aren’t The Only Romantic Ones
“Women are more romantic than men.
“Most romance novels and romantic comedies are pitched to female audiences, this may be hard to believe. A much-used measure of romanticism, the Romantic Beliefs Scale, asks people to rate the extent to which they agree with statements like, ‘There will only be one real love for me,’ and, ‘If I love someone, I know I can make the relationship work, despite any obstacles.’ But it turns out that men typically outscore women on this measure. Men are also more likely than women to believe in the romantic notion of ‘love at first sight'” —Reddit / Gerardo_Erardo
I’m Assuming We’re Talking About Driving
“Most men have zero issues asking for directions. I don’t like being lost, it’s god damn annoying.” —Reddit / Hot_KarlMarx
This could all be avoided if you had used your maps app in the first place.
Men Have Body Image Issues Too
“That men don’t have self-image issues. You only get to hear about body positivity when it’s about women’s bodies.” —Reddit / lewdel00
The body positivity movement should be a gender-neutral effort!!
Who Doesn’t Love A Compliment?
“That they don’t need compliments. I hate it when I do it to my male friends and some other acquaintance will overhear and tease me for it. But when I do it to a female friend, nobody cares. I believe that guys deserve to be complimented sincerely once in a while, like everybody else.” —Reddit / uera
Are Women Too Complex, Or Are Men Too Simple?
“I sometimes hear girls say men are simple-minded and don’t get women’s complexities.
“This is usually alluding to men asking girls to be straightforward and tell us what you need of us.” —Reddit / PM_ME_IF_UR_OKAY
Give Them Time To Warm Up
“Just because I don’t show emotions doesn’t mean that I’m incapable, I just don’t feel comfortable being vulnerable around you yet.” —Reddit / gregmcmuffin101
You’ve got to give them time to feel comfortable before you can expect them to just start spilling their feelings.
He Trained Himself
“When a guy is helpful around the house and just courteous in general, sometimes a woman will say, ‘your wife/girlfriend has trained you well!’ No, we managed to become decent human beings without a woman’s help.” —Reddit
Big Boys Do Cry (If They Want To)
“That men can’t cry or men cannot be sensitive or caring. Men also have different emotions and these type of views only represses these emotions.” —Reddit / geraltofkolkata
Fergie may have said that big girls don’t cry, but in this house, big boys can cry if they want to.
’70s TV Did Them Dirty
“That men are completely incompetent in the kitchen, doing laundry, other household chores. This is a stereotype perpetuated largely by network sitcoms.” —Reddit / andropogon09
The trope that a man is completely useless in the kitchen or is always going to turn the load of whites pink in the laundry after forgetting a red sock is a little overdone.