There's nothing like a bridezilla story!
One woman has gone viral online after the story of her future sister-in-law's outrageous demands for her upcoming wedding was shared on Reddit, and it is definitely a wild ride.
Weddings Are Stressful
Of course, a lot of people go a little bit overboard when it comes to preparing for their wedding.
Weddings can be expensive and stressful, and it can be hard to keep perspective!
One Woman Took Her Story Online
A Reddit user by the username of cheapsil took to a subreddit designed to find out who is in the wrong in a particular situation and to find out whether her future sister-in-law had demanded too much for her upcoming wedding.
People couldn't believe the story.
A Simple Beginning
"My (28F) younger brother (24M) and his fiancée (23F) are supposed to get married in the spring after being engaged for about a year. My younger brother has always been the golden child between the both of us to my mom (not to my dad)," she began her explanation.
"He and his fiancée currently live with her, rent-free, might I add."
Not So Fast?
"My dad and I, on the other hand, have mixed feelings about this wedding. We both feel like my brother is rushing into things and not being financially smart," she went on.
"He just finished his bachelor program a year ago, is still trying to get on his feet and find a good full-time job in his field, and decides to spend thousands of dollars on a wedding?"
They Tried To Get Through To Him
"We sat him down and explained this to him and asked him what the rush was?"
"Why not push it off for a few years and save up so you guys can really have the wedding of your dreams?" she wrote.
They Don't Want To Wait
"He explained to us that his fiancée wants the wedding as soon as possible and doesn't want to wait," she wrote.
She explained that the fiancée's family and her dad are each pitching in a couple thousand towards the wedding.
Then Her Future SIL Got Directly Involved
"Well, a few nights ago, I'm eating dinner with my husband when I get a call from my future SIL. Convo starts our normal 'Hey, how are you?'" she wrote.
Then she said that her SIL said she had a serious question to ask her.
Her Outrageous Request
"She asks me if she can use my wedding dress, that I wore to my wedding JUST OVER A YEAR AGO," she revealed.
"She explains that she can't afford one herself, that she absolutely LOVES mine, and that it would be her 'something borrowed.'"
She Shut It Down
"I immediately shut her down and said I'm sorry, but no, this is a THOUSANDS of dollars dress we're talking about, that she'd have to get altered to fit her btw too, so no way," she explained.
"We're also not even close at all and barely talk."
Her Future SIL Lost It
"She starts begging and even starts CRYING and going on about how she can't afford one. I told her I'm sorry, but no," she explained.
"She then starts going on about how I'm not even financially helping her and my brother pay for the wedding, so the least I can do is let her use my dress."
She Said She Has A Timeline
Cheapsil didn't hold back on how she really felt. "I told her the honest truth, that I think they're rushing into having a wedding and not being financially smart," she wrote.
"She said she didn't care; she has a timeline and wants to be married by 25."
Keeping It Real
"I basically said to her that she made her bed so now she has to lie in it, and figure it out herself, and if she can't afford her WEDDING DRESS then she shouldn't be having a wedding," she wrote.
"Simple as that."
Her Future SIL Was Not Happy
"She ran back to my mom and my brother to tell them what I said. They think I'm [in the wrong] because I have the money to financially help my brother and his fiancée, but I'm being 'selfish' and 'unsupportive,'" she wrote about her family's opinion.
"They also think 'it's just a dress so what's the big deal.'"
Her Dad Takes A Side
"My dad is on my side and defending me and is now thinking of taking back his financial help due to the sheer audacity of my brother's fiancée asking me such a thing," she shared.
She then left it up to the comments to find out whether or not they were on her side.
The Comments Were Not Kind
"Tell her to use a sack of flour as a dress if she wants to get married so badly. The entitlement," one commenter wrote in shock.
Entitlement as a concept came up more than once.
Some Other Suggestions
One commenter wrote that her SIL could "just...buy a cheap dress."
"I don't know why so many people get engaged and then immediately jump to 'the only worthwhile wedding dress for me MUST cost thousands of dollars!'"
Doubts About The Marriage
One commenter suggested, "She can also rent a dress, buy a less expensive dress, or wear something white but more simple. This screams 'I care about the wedding' and not 'I care about the marriage.'"
"I have my doubts it will last very long."
Other Pressing Questions
Some commenters took issue with the idea that she should be expected to contribute to her brother's wedding at all.
"Who pays for their sibling's wedding come on now. If my brothers wanted to get married, I would tell them congrats, and I'll see you on your big day. Like, who asks anyone to contribute to their party?"
Some Felt It Was Her Right To Ask
"She asked and you said no, she should have left it there," a commenter wrote.
"I would have stuck to the 'no, you can't, no, I don’t want to lend it out, or no, I’m not paying money for your wedding."
You Only Wear A Wedding Dress Once
"Obviously, you're never going to wear the dress again, and it's not doing anyone any good just hiding in a closet or in storage somewhere," one commenter wrote.
"But she should have accepted no for an answer."
Dresses Aren't Sentimental To Everyone
One commenter added, "Not everyone sees a wedding dress as something incredibly personal or precious. I have mine in a box in the basement, but if someone wanted to use it, I'd be fine with that, so I don't think SIL is [in the wrong] for asking."
But others felt the problem wasn't that she asked.
"It's Okay To Ask"
One commenter proclaimed that "It's Ok to ask, but she became [in the wrong] the moment she kept trying to make you feel bad about not giving her the dress, and especially after complaining to your mom."
Others felt that even asking was pushing it too far.
"That's your own very personal expensive dress. The audacity to ask you to let her alter it and use it for her wedding, especially so close after yours," one commenter wrote.
"I'm glad your dad also has some common sense and that he's got your back."
The Dress Might Be At Risk
"Do not let this woman anywhere near your dress," one commenter insisted.
Many others chimed in that the future SIL might steal the dress or that it might "go missing" if she already knows where it is.
Many Thought She Was Entiteld
"It's insane to me the increased entitlement people seem to be having over family members having to contribute to a wedding. Traditionally, maybe parents kick in a little bit- but siblings?" one user asked.
"This is delusional," they added.
Borrowed But Not Likely Returned
"If she has to alter the dress, then you'll never be able to wear it again," one user speculated.
"If you do lend it to her, you'll probably never see it again cuz she'll give the excuse that it doesn't even fit you right anymore."
There's No Need To Rush
"I don't understand their rush to get married; just like you said, if they can't even afford a dress, then they shouldn't even have a wedding," one commenter wrote.
"Tell them just to go to court and register the marriage or smth if she wants to get married sooooooo badly."
Ask Them To Pay Up First
Some users took issue with the fact that her brother and future SIL asked her to contribute to the wedding.
"How much did she and your brother pitch in for your wedding a year ago?" One user asked. "Maybe they should pay up."
Postpone The Wedding
A common theme in the comments was the idea that her brother and sister-in-law should postpone their wedding until they could afford it. "This woman whom you hardly know had the audacity to ask for your wedding dress. Of course, you said no," wrote one user.
"There are wedding dresses not so expensive out there. She can use one of those. Or she can postpone the wedding until she and your brother have all their ducks in a row."
It's A Tough Call
What do you think? Was the future sister-in-law out of line for asking, or was it her refusal to take no for an answer the real problem?
It looks like the lesson here is if you're looking for something borrowed, don't look at wedding dresses!