10+ Subtle Ways Men Flirt That Women Often Miss

Picking up on when someone is flirting with you is not everyone’s strong suit—especially when it comes to dating men who are known for being subtle when it comes to romance.

Fortunately, there are a few surefire ways to tell when a man is flirting with you.

Physical Touch Is The Most Obvious Sign

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Photo Credit: Katerina Holmes / Pexels

Even though physical touch seems like an obvious sign of affection, it might not be as noticeable as you might expect.

Something as simple as helping you put on your coat, moving a piece of hair out of your face, or brushing against you when walking are all signs that he’s interested.

He Sends You Memes Or Posts Online

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Photo Credit: @thefunnyintrovert / Instagram

Sending memes often gets dismissed as a gesture of friendship instead of a type of flirting.

Still, if a guy is sending you memes, it’s because he’s thinking about you and wants to show off his personality and sense of humor.

He Introduces You To His Friends

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Photo Credit: cottonbro / Pexels

If you get the invite to meet his friends or join them when they are going out, you’re basically in.

Meeting friends is a subtle gesture of vulnerability because he wants to show you how he acts around the people he cares about, and he’s willing to let them know he’s a bit more serious about you.

You Have Inside Jokes Together

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Photo Credit: Miriam Alonso / Pexels

Having personal jokes together shows that he’s interested in your sense of humor and getting to know you better.

Creating little inside jokes is actually a way to create memories out of moments that you will both remember.

He Puts A Little Effort Into Looking Good For You

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Photo Credit: Shelbey Fordyce / Unsplash

If you notice that he’s putting in a bit of extra effort to maintain his appearance before he sees you, it means that he’s trying to keep your attention.

When he starts getting regular haircuts, wearing nicer shoes or clothing, and putting on a bit of cologne, he is definitely interested.

He Takes Initiative To Plan Things

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Saying you want to go out with someone is one thing, but actually putting in the effort to make the plans and then commit to them is something else altogether.

If he’s going the distance to plan a date and make sure it goes off without a hitch, he’s sending you major signs that he wants to commit.

He Wants To Spend Time Together

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Photo Credit: Toa Heftiba / Unsplash

Going on dates is great, but sometimes it’s nice to just spend time together without the pressure of going out in public.

One way that men show their love language is by choosing to spend their downtime with you, even if it’s just watching a movie or reading a book.

He Gives You Attention

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Photo Credit: Al Elmes / Unsplash

Getting a message throughout the day or a phone call when he’s thinking about you are little ways for him to show you that he cares.

Giving attention isn’t always compliments and pampering, sometimes it’s him listening to your rants or respecting your boundaries.

He Sends Good Morning Texts

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Photo Credit: RODNAE Productions / Pexels

This one seems basic but that’s because it’s true.

If he’s shooting you a message first thing in the morning, it’s because you are the first thing on his mind in the day and he wants you to know that.

He Gives You Space

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Photo Credit: Eren Li / Pexels

Even though this seems like the opposite of flirting, it’s actually a subtle sign that he’s reading your cues and respecting your boundaries.

Nobody wants to be smothered in a relationship and there is an important balance between space and attention.

He Shows You He Cares With Little Actions

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Photo Credit: Viktoria Slowikowska / Pexels

Some men are not super comfortable with voicing their feelings, they often prefer to show their emotions through actions and gestures.

It could be something as simple as making dinner or doing the dishes, making the bed, or bringing you a surprise when you have plans.

Every Person Is Different, But Some Men Have Similar Flirting Habits

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Photo Credit: Olya Kobruseva / Pexels

Obviously, every person is different and men can’t be predicted every time.

That being said, there are some signs that suggest when a guy is interested in you and sometimes they are more subtle than you might expect.