Things Women Shouldn’t Have To Apologize For

Being a woman can feel like you’re constantly being examined and scrutinized, from the music you like to listen to, to the way you look, to your life choices. I find women, myself included, are often apologizing for simply being ourselves and expressing our desires and opinions.

Well, enough is enough: Here are things that women shouldn’t feel apologetic or ashamed about.

What She’s Wearing

Women don’t need to apologize for the style of clothing they wear or how much skin they show. It’s her body, and she can choose to dress it however he wants.

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Having Emotions And Expressing Them

Women tend to be dismissed or called illogical when they show an emotional response, but having feelings and expressing them is totally natural and shouldn’t be shamed or considered a problem.

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Deciding Not To Be A Mother

Being a parent is not for everyone, and there is no manual for life that states you have to have a child. Many women face criticism for choosing not to become mothers, but you should never feel the need to apologize for your choice.

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Photo Credit: Instagram / @memesofbabyyoda

Not Wearing Makeup

Women shouldn’t be expected to wear makeup every day or for events, and they shouldn’t feel bad for opting not to beat their faces. It should always be their choice, and you should always avoid telling them they look tired when bare-faced.

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Photo Credit: Kevin Winter / Getty Images for iHeartMedia

Saying “No”

As women, we’re often socialized to be agreeable and avoid rejecting requests from people. If you don’t want to do something or don’t have the time or capacity to do something, you should say “no” without beating yourself up about it.

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Being Proud Of Her Achievements

We’re often taught to be quiet about our accomplishments and to show modesty, but there is nothing wrong with celebrating your wins in life, whether it be in your career, education, or personal life.

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Her Sexuality And Choices Around It

Despite what society might tell you, there’s nothing wrong with taking your sexuality into your own hands and playing by your own rules. Which or how many people you decide to tango with is nothing to apologize for.

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Liking Traditionally “Masculine” Things

It’s okay if you’re interested in more traditionally “masculine” activities like football, automotives, or wrestling. There’s nothing wrong with preferring to do activities and liking things generally considered to be “male” interests.

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Liking Traditionally “Feminine” Things

Likewise, it’s okay to be a woman who loves things that are traditionally feminine. People love to trivialize activities and items deemed “female,” like doing makeup, getting your nails done, or watching The Bachelor, but you shouldn’t feel stupid for liking typically feminine things.

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Demanding Good Work And Respect From Others

Where men are often considered to “command respect,” women are told that they’re being bossy or demanding. There’s nothing wrong with setting the bar high for your subordinates at work or in your personal life.

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Her Food Choices

How many times have you been out with women who’ll say they’ve been “bad” based on what they’ve eaten recently? Women shouldn’t feel like they have to shame themselves for what they choose to eat, whether it be cheesecake or celery.

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Having Major Career Ambitions

While many men are encouraged to make their careers a priority, many women face scrutiny for sharing that same ambition. You don’t need to apologize for putting your career goals first and aspiring to be in leadership.

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Needing Help And Asking For It

Part of being a strong, successful woman is understanding when you need to ask for a helping hand. Women can be independent people and still want a hand carrying heavy items around.

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Having A Different Opinion

Having opinions that are different from your male friends’ and colleagues’ isn’t something to be sorry about; you bring a unique perspective to conversations, which is something that should be celebrated.

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Photo Credit: Instagram / @_babyyoda_

Taking Some Time For Herself

Most women I know feel bad carving out time just for themselves when other people are competing for their attention, but it’s okay to say that you’re emotionally or mentally exhausted and need time to recharge before you can help others.

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Photo Credit: Twitter / @pienar

Loving Her Body The Way It Is

There is no correct way to have a body, despite what media might show us. You can love yourself unapologetically no matter your skin color, body size, ability or disability, stretch marks, and cellulite.

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Her Relationship Status

You may face scrutiny for choosing to be single, especially as you get older, but you shouldn’t feel pressured to apologize for choosing to be alone. Fulfillment in life doesn’t need to come from romance.

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Doing What She Loves

People might like to criticize what you do in your spare time, but you should never apologize for what you enjoy. If you’re a homebody who loves to knit and watch Netflix, that’s awesome! If you club hard every weekend, I’m glad you’re having fun!

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Not Smiling

We’ve all had someone, at some point in our lives, tell us we should smile more. You should never feel like you have to look cheerful, and you don’t owe anyone a smile.

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Anything That You Wouldn’t Expect A Man To Apologize For

A 2010 psychological study even proved that women apologize significantly more than men do. It’s time that we stop apologizing for who we are, what we do, and what we love because you shouldn’t feel sorry for demanding the same respect and treatment as men just for existing.

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