People On Twitter Are Sharing Advice That Changed Their Life

Talking to others and asking for other opinions is an important part of life. You might have advice from your own experiences that could be useful to someone who is going through a difficult time. The power of sharing experiences should not be underestimated.

Recently, on Twitter, user Caroline Moss asked people to share some advice that changed their lives. Twitter users delivered and shared some wisdom that we could all benefit to learn from.

RuPaul Was Right

If you don’t love yourself, how on earth are you gonna love someone else? All you can do is give love and hope that you will get it back. You can’t control how other people feel.

tweet: love is not a feeling, it's how you treat people
Photo Credit: Twitter / @HilaryGan
Photo Credit: Twitter / @HilaryGan

Have Your Own Rules

If something works for you, then that is your normal. The things that we find normal are going to be different from person to person. It’s as individual as a fingerprint.

tweet: the best thing a therapist ever told me is that society doesn't need to be the one to set my schedule. I'm allowed to eat breakfast at 11am, go to bed at 1am. There's no correct mold to fit, just what works best for me.
Photo Credit: Twitter / @_sputnik1
Photo Credit: Twitter / @_sputnik1

Sometimes You’re Your Own Worst Enemy

Your thoughts aren’t facts. The things that you think often come from how you perceive a situation. It’s important to listen to your gut, but sometimes, it might just be fear or anxiety talking.

tweet: I don't have to believe everything I think, just because I thought it
Photo Credit: Twitter / @LKowash
Photo Credit: Twitter / @LKowash

You Should Always Have Your Own Back

If you don’t look out for you, no one is going to. Standing up for yourself doesn’t have to be something that is negative. You’re protecting yourself because, at the end of the day, you are your own priority.

tweet: even if you don't think it will change anything, you should still stand up for yourself and keep doing the right things, it's not about changing the other person, it's about being the kind of person you want to be
Photo Credit: Twitter / @Trisarahjtops
Photo Credit: Twitter / @Trisarahjtops

Try And Learn The Difference

You should absolutely always trust yourself, but try and understand why you might not be thinking the clearest. Anxiety isn’t going to be honest with you, it’s going to tell you the worst case scenario.

tweet: anxiety is not intuition
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Photo Credit: Twitter / @Merry_Quinn

Even Though It Feels Like Somethings Gotta Give

It may feel like the perfect time to try and make big changes, but the truth is that you’re not thinking clearly and you need to find your way back to solid ground first.

tweet: don't make any big life decisions when you're in the middle of an anxiety attack or depressive episode
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Photo Credit: Twitter / @ashley_hoffman

You Know You Best

Feeling like you have to do certain things or accomplish certain things on a timeline the world made you believe in is toxic. Go at your own pace and don’t be afraid to take your time.

tweet: set your own personal criteria for success in your life. Ignore
Photo Credit: Twitter / @MelusineColwell
Photo Credit: Twitter / @MelusineColwell

Healing Isn’t A Straight Line

You’re always going to take some steps backward, but always remember that even when that happens, you’re still ahead of where you were in the past and that is what’s important.

tweet: progress isn't linear. There will be ups and downs no matter how much you plan or how hard you work.
Photo Credit: Twitter / @CraigShank
Photo Credit: Twitter / @CraigShank

Find Something That Brings You Peace

And don’t feel bad about doing those things! If reading, watching movies, listening to music, or going for a long week helps you feel calm, then doing it is never time wasted.

tweet: that everyone needs a coping mechanism. There are bad ones (drinking, drugs, violence) and good ones (exercise, meditation, therapy). Pick a good one so you can avoid bad ones, because we all have things we need to cope with.
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Photo Credit: Twitter / @DemoChrissy

Always Be Honest

You’re going to save a lot of heartache and frustration for you and all the people in your life if you’re just honest about the things that you think and feel.

tweet: just because your significant other loves you, they don't always know what you're thinking and what you need. Don't think 'if they loved me they should know'. A simple straightforward conversation can clear up a lot.
Photo Credit: Twitter / @MergerBob
Photo Credit: Twitter / @MergerBob

Don’t Bottle Things Up

They’re only going to come back bigger and stronger and more intense than when you tried to do away with them. When you try and bury your feelings, they mutate into emotions that become harder to handle.

Tweet: I've heard it said,
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Photo Credit: Twitter / @gskraz

You Can’t Make Sense Out Of Nonsense

Often in life it’s best to mind your own business. You can’t fix anyone, and you certainly can’t make sense out of someone who doesn’t even understand themselves.

tweet: I learned: do not attempt to understand why a dysfunctional person does what they do. Dysfunction has no logic behind it. Knowing this has spared me anxiety and unneeded turmoil
Photo Credit: Twitter / @greciasmall
Photo Credit: Twitter / @greciasmall

It Has Nothing To Do With You

If someone doesn’t like you, it isn’t the end of the world. Chances are it says a lot more about them than it says about you. Besides, you meet people you don’t always like but that doesn’t mean they’re bad people, right?

tweet: some people will never like me. My mother was one of them. Despite clean house, clean clothes, and good food, I did not have one of the most important bonds. This is a fact to be recognized. I can still be loved.
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Photo Credit: Twitter / @7cats1dog0marbl

Don’t Expect Someone To Complete You

If someone is trying to love you the best they can and it isn’t enough, then it simply isn’t enough. One of the hard truths in life is that sometimes love isn’t going to work.

tweet: someone's very best effort at loving you still may not be the thing that you need. It doesn't mean they're not trying hard enough, or don't love you enough. It means that's all they're capable of doing. And you have to decide if you're will to live with it.
Photo Credit: Twitter / @kjones912
Photo Credit: Twitter / @kjones912

Have Faith In Yourself!

It really is cliché, but knowing that the worst thing can happen at any time means you should also know that the best thing can. You will get from the world you put into it, so always put out positive thoughts.

tweet: if you can imagine the worst thing, you can imagine the best thing. Both things are imaginary. Say out loud verbally the positive outcome, repeat until it feels more real.
Photo Credit: Twitter / @OLCVTA
Photo Credit: Twitter / @OLCVTA

Always Give Yourself Time To Process

You’re not always going to understand what you think about a situation until you’ve given yourself some time to mull it over. Maybe try journaling or talking to someone you trust before making any decisions.

tweet: Don't react. Sit with it until you know what you feel. Sit with it. Oh, if you do something to elicit a response from someone else, you are engaging in negative behavior. If you do something to respond to your needs, you're doing something positive
Photo Credit: Twitter / @annaleegulley
Photo Credit: Twitter / @annaleegulley

You Are Worth Knowing

If you allow yourself to walk into a room with the power to make decisions, instead of giving all that power to people you don’t know, you’re going to come out ahead. You’ll probably end up with some new friends too!

tweet: when meeting new people, don't think about it as trying to get them to like you - think about it as trying to see if you like them / if you get along with them. Rather than focusing on what they must be thinking about you, focus on what you think about them. Changed my life.
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Photo Credit: Twitter / @sailboatsail

Believe What You Feel About Your Life

If something makes you feel a certain way, that is reason enough to acknowledge those feelings. You don’t need another person to validate what you know about yourself. It’s ok to want a second opinion, but always count on yours first.

tweet: This! My therapist told me: You can be your own witness. It completely blew my mind, I was so used to thinking that my word about a negative experience wasn't good enough, that I needed witnesses to it in order to make it something I was allowed to be hurt by.
Photo Credit: Twitter / @EleanorParker24
Photo Credit: Twitter / @EleanorParker24

You’re Always Stronger Than You Think

Standing up for yourself doesn’t have to mean a fight. It just means that you aren’t going to let yourself be pushed around. Don’t let people use you for their own personal gain.

tweet: confrontation doesn't need to be a bad thing or an argument. If you're having trouble talking about a problem, try writing down a bullet list of issues, why it's an issue/where it might stem from for you and what can be done to fix it
Photo Credit: Twitter / @domendezz
Photo Credit: Twitter / @domendezz

Always Take Care Of Yourself

You can’t pour from an empty glass! So make sure that you set aside time to make sure you’re healthy and taken care of. You’re a person in your life, too.

tweet: if you take care of your body during times of crisis, it will take care of you (nutrition, sleep, exercise). Some people don't have the same tools in their toolbox we wish we had (when people don't know how to care/love you in the ways you need)
Photo Credit: Twitter / @ShastaDeanna
Photo Credit: Twitter / @ShastaDeanna