Woman’s Twitter Thread Highlights Why Men Should Keep Their Unsolicited Opinions To Themselves

Some men can’t help but insert themselves into a woman’s business even if she is a total stranger to them.

It happens both in public and on social media, and every now and then an incident that happened in public ends up on social media. That situation opens the debate to thousands of more opinions, some of them welcome and some not.

A Woman Tweeted About Her Experience

Woman in train station walking
Photo Credit: Luke Stackpoole / Unsplash
Photo Credit: Luke Stackpoole / Unsplash

A woman named Amy tweeted about her morning commute experience on the train.

She shared that a random man approached her while she was doing her makeup and told her that he prefers when women “have a more natural look.” Surprisingly, this is not an uncommon experience.

When A Man Told Her He Likes Women Without Makeup She Had A Quick Response

Tweet: Doing my makeup on the train this morning and a random man told me he likes women to have a more natural look. I told him I like men to have a more silent look.
Photo Credit: @AmyAbroad / Twitter
Photo Credit: @AmyAbroad / Twitter

Fortunately, Amy wasted no time letting the man know what her personal preference was when it comes to men. It involves them not speaking to her.

Her tweet started to get viral attention which brought some seriously angry men to her Twitter mentions.

Men Immediately Started Replying To Her With Their Opinions About Her Makeup And Behavior

Tweets: Why do your make up on train? Shared space! I avoid public transport due to flying foundation, perfume sprayed, dandruff flying & smell of nail polish applied. My mother told my sisters
Photo Credit: @AmyAbroad / Twitter
Photo Credit: @AmyAbroad / Twitter

Both of these men stopped by to share their unsolicited opinions about how, when, and where a woman should apply her makeup.

Somehow James thinks that applying some powder and blush is equivalent to wet shaving in public. And they say women are dramatic.

People Tried To Tell Her The Man Was Complimenting Her—He Wasn’t

Tweets: I love your look and you are beautiful to me. In general, that man was trying to pay you a compliment on your beauty without the makeup. Amy, your reply was uncalled for. You should had said thank you, realizing his compliment came unartfully stated, but with good intentions. & Compliments don't start with
Photo Credit: @AmyAbroad / Twitter
Photo Credit: @AmyAbroad / Twitter

Another man named Ross responded to tell Amy she should be thankful that the random man offered his rude and unsolicited opinion because it was merely a “compliment” that was “unartfully stated.”

Over 60 people replied to Ross to put him in his place about why his logic is completely flawed. Amy was never complimented but instead subjected to an unnecessary comment about what a random man likes in a woman.

The Tweet Brought On A Flood Of Even Worse Opinions

Tweets: And the prize for unsolicited opinions about my makeup on a post about unsolicited opinions about my makeup goes to... No. There are just too many deserving entrants to choose. The number of tweets saying I would have had a different reaction had the man been rich or attractive. Unsettling how shallow you must think women are. This behaviour isn't charming or cute, it's creepy and controlling and I would feel that no matter what the guy looked like.
Photo Credit: @AmyAbroad / Twitter
Photo Credit: @AmyAbroad / Twitter

The irony wasn’t lost on Amy who pointed out that she was getting an exceptional amount of “unsolicited opinions” about her makeup on a post about how she didn’t want unsolicited opinions from men.

Some responses also assumed she would have reacted differently depending on what the “random guy” looked like. She was quick to shut that down saying the behavior isn’t “charming or cute” but “creepy and controlling.”

She Explained Why Women Are Not Grateful For This Type Of Interaction

Tweets: Suggesting I didn't realise this man might have found me attractive and that was why I took issue misses the point. Complimentary and creepy are different and no it’s actually not a fine line between them. This guy was creepy and it’s not my responsibility to be polite to creeps. And am I supposed to be suddenly grateful for his input if it's because he thought I was attractive? His intentions don’t mandate my reaction to his behaviour. His intentions are irrelevant, his behaviour was the problem. We’ve been polite because we felt uncomfortable. No more.
Photo Credit: @AmyAbroad / Twitter
Photo Credit: @AmyAbroad / Twitter

She made her point infinitely clear even though some people still missed it in the end.

Like most women in a similar situation, she was not grateful for the man’s opinion and his behavior made her uncomfortable, so she decided the time for politeness was over.

Twitter Was Both Supportive And Damning

Tweets: I've now learned that the comment to me was lighthearted and well-intentioned and I should lighten up, while my comment to him was completely out of line and makes me a b****, cow, psychopath, bitter, twisted, in need of a man, and shallow. Thanks, Twitter, every day is school. I've also learned that there are a lot of awesome people on Twitter and there has been a lot of support, sharing of experiences and finding common ground in this thread so I don't mean to concentrate on the bad comments. The dialogue and solidarity have actually been amazing.
Photo Credit: @AmyAbroad / Twitter
Photo Credit: @AmyAbroad / Twitter

Amy finished off her Twitter thread by highlighting the double standard she has faced as a woman for simply sharing her experience and the nasty response she received as a result.

But she did mention that she has found some common ground with other women on the app who were willing to share their similar experiences as a sign of support.

She Wasn’t Changing Her Makeup Habits For Anyone

Makeup bag on train table
Photo Credit: @AmyAbroad / Twitter
Photo Credit: @AmyAbroad / Twitter

Don’t worry, the heat didn’t get Amy down because she shared this photo of her makeup bag out on the train.

She said that having it out “this morning feels more significant than usual! Nolite te Bastardes Carborundorum.” She’s not letting any dude dampen her day.