Signs You Might Be The Mom In Your Friend Group

In every friend group, there are people who fill certain roles. There is the wild friend who is always off doing whatever they please. Then the boy-crazy friend who barely breathes between relationships. Of course, each group has a smart friend who you go to when you don’t understand what you’re learning in class.

And then there is the “mom” friend…the cornerstone of all friend groups. If your mom friend didn’t come to mind, there might be a chance that it’s you. Let’s take a look.

They Choose You, You Don’t Choose Them

someone asking if they're the mom
Photo Credit: Twitter / @Doriiisaw
Photo Credit: Twitter / @Doriiisaw

Becoming the mom in your friend group is not something you choose to do, it’s something that is decided upon because of who you are as a person. You might not even know at first you’ve been chosen.

Your Rules Don’t Always Apply To You

me: does something questionable or unhealthy lol friend: does something questionable or unhealthy me: mom friend mode activated
Photo Credit: tumblr / donutcats
Photo Credit: tumblr / donutcats

You find yourself giving excellent life advice that actually helps people. But when it comes to applying that advice to yourself, it’s hit and miss on whether or not you’ll listen.

You’re Always Saying Sorry

tweet: that unspoken group dynamic when all your friends are in an Uber on your way to the club and the people in the backseat are lit, dancing and scream talking and the person in the front seat is the group's PR person and talks to the driver and just keeps saying 'i'm sorry for that'
Photo Credit: Twitter / @lukasbattle
Photo Credit: Twitter / @lukasbattle

You might apologize too much, but you want everyone to know your friends aren’t bad people. They just have the tendency to get a little out of control sometimes and that’s fine.

You Become An Authority

tweet: the fact that my friends get scared when I say we need to talk is alarmingly beautiful
Photo Credit: Twitter / @011694
Photo Credit: Twitter / @011694

Before you know it, you’re the one making rules and decisions for the whole group. Where should we eat? Should I date this boy? What movie should we see? All your choices.

You’re Always The Friend That Stays Sober

tweet: when you're the only sober one and have to take care of your drunk friends
Photo Credit: Twitter / @sabrinajaaay
Photo Credit: Twitter / @sabrinajaaay

Whether you’re the DD or just not drinking, you’re the one who ends up herding all your friends home at the end of the night. You might even do a headcount every once in a while to make sure everyone is accounted for.

You Basically Make All The Decisions

tweet: if you don't screenshot a message and send it to your best friend and ask
Photo Credit: Twitter / @omgrelatable
Photo Credit: Twitter / @omgrelatable

Your friends rarely do anything without running it by you first. You are the all-knowing and all-seeing entity in their lives who knows how to talk to their crush and ask their boss for a raise.

You’re Literally Their Biggest Fans

tweet: *prints out and sticks my friends' best selfies on my fridge like a proud mom
Photo Credit: Twitter / @twelveoclocke
Photo Credit: Twitter / @twelveoclocke

Your friends can do no wrong in your eyes and you genuinely love them. Being the mom friend means loving them the way you love your pets or maybe even how people love their children.

You’re Who They Call In A Crisis

someone putting ice on a leg
Photo Credit: Twitter / @CloeCouture
Photo Credit: Twitter / @CloeCouture

Whether someone got hurt or has a crisis of the heart, you’re number one on everyone’s speed dial. That’s because you always know what to do when the bad stuff in life starts to go down.

You Always Have Their Backs…And Hair

a girl holding another girl's hair while she is being sick
Photo Credit: Twitter / @SavyyMorgan
Photo Credit: Twitter / @SavyyMorgan

You’re always there in the bathroom or parking lot with your friend who is going to puke, holding back their hair and telling them that it’s going to be alright.

You’re More Excited About Their Birthdays Than They Are

tweet: when you're obsessed with your friends so you wait right until 12am to say happy birthday
Photo Credit: Twitter / @Laroneeonie
Photo Credit: Twitter / @Laroneeonie

This is a big one. The mom friend is a planner and they always want to make sure that their friends feel special. What better day to go all-out for someone than their birthday?

You’re Always Prepared

someone with a bunch of bandaids and meds
Photo Credit: Twitter / @MorgannGrace3
Photo Credit: Twitter / @MorgannGrace3

You’re the one who has extra pads, and Advil, you’re the one who brings snacks for the road trip, you make sure that you always have an extra charger. Basically, you are the reason your friends survive.

You Have High Standards For Them

tweet: once I hate your boyfriend for you there's no going back. I don't care that he apologized. I did this for you
Photo Credit: Twitter / @RaxKingisDead
Photo Credit: Twitter / @RaxKingisDead

If you’re the mom friend in your group, you find that your friend’s significant others won’t easily impress you. That’s why you become the person whose approval your friends seek most.

You Always Know What Your Friends Are Thinking

tweet: mind reading exists in science fiction and between girls who are best friends
Photo Credit: Twitter / @TheAdly
Photo Credit: Twitter / @TheAdly

When you become a mom friend in your group, this weird thing happens when you suddenly start to hear your friends’ inner thoughts. You know them so well, you can guess what they’re thinking.

They Know You’re Not Judgemental

tweet: friendship: because I've said many dumb things and you acted like they were TED talks
Photo Credit: Twitter / @aparnapkin
Photo Credit: Twitter / @aparnapkin

Real talk, the mom friend is the best because you know that being with them is a safe zone. It’s okay to talk about whatever is on your mind without fear of being judged.

You Look Out For Your Friend’s Best Interests

tweet: best friends cancel their exercise plan just so the other friend doesn't feel bad for bailing on theirs
Photo Credit: Twitter / @maggyvaneijk
Photo Credit: Twitter / @maggyvaneijk

Being the mom friend means that you always find a way to make your friends feel good about making difficult decisions…or make them feel like they’ve made a decision at all.

Everyone Can Be Themselves Around You

tweet: if I haven't embarrassingly sang around you then we aren't true friends
Photo Credit: Twitter / @FemaleBible
Photo Credit: Twitter / @FemaleBible

You’re the friend people act goofy with, they fall asleep on your couch during a movie night, they tell you about the gross things they’d do to their crush all because they know that you get them.

You Always Know What To Say

tweet: the epi-pen of female friendship is telling another lady she ain't crazy
Photo Credit: Twitter / @aparnapkin
Photo Credit: Twitter / @aparnapkin

Knowing your friends as intimately as you do means you always know what to say to calm them down. It’s all about making them feel valid for feeling their feelings.

They Tell You Everything

tweet: when you let your friend go out on Halloween without adult supervision
Photo Credit: Twitter / @the_mom_friend
Photo Credit: Twitter / @the_mom_friend

You have your own side chat with every friend in the group chat where they tell you everything they wouldn’t tell anyone else. You are the keeper of all the secrets.

You Just Want Everyone To Be Happy

a screen capture of friends fighting
Photo Credit: Twitter / @taborangeline
Photo Credit: Twitter / @taborangeline

More than anything else, you want the people you love to love one another and for everyone to get along and be happy. Of course, this rarely happens, but it’s nice to dream.

You Don’t Always Know How Much You Do

tweet: honestly surprised I haven't gotten a happy Mother's Day text from my friends yet
Photo Credit: Twitter / @emilyr_xoxo
Photo Credit: Twitter / @emilyr_xoxo

A trademark trait of the mom friend is that they usually don’t see how loving and caring they are. If you’re not the mom friend in your group, make sure you check on yours and remind them how much you love them.